Baby with no routine

[Hapimumny]

Hi,
I need help with getting my son into a routine. He is 11mts, and breastfeed. He doesn't have a routine, and I want to get him into one, but he sleeps most of the day, and is up most of the night for example he went to sleep at 3:30am- 10:30am ( wakes up every 2 hrs for a breast feed), nap 2pm-5pm ( 1 breast feed during this time), nap 8:30pm-10pm, then 1:25am-3:40am ( I thought that was it for night but he is wide awake it's 6am) . I don't know how to turn this around.
He has 2 solid meals a day but breast milk is his main source of food. When I have tried to leave him in his cot he just screams super loud, and once he wants to sleep nothing i do will stop him. Has anyone got any ideas what I can do?

If he's wide awake at 6am I'd treat this as the start of the day.

If you have a DP/DH get him to give LO his breakfast and get up and have a shower.

Once DS has had his breakfast, change him and get him outside as daylight can help with nighttime sleep.

Aim for a nap round 9am but don't let him sleep fir more than 1.5 hours as 45 mins is a full sleep cycle.

Aim for Libby around 12 and nap again at 1pm.

Don't let him sleep past 3pm, he may be really miserable but stick with it.

Then do bath, books, boob/bottle, bed aiming to be put down at 7pm.

Keep with it for a few days and see how it goes.

Really, he needs to be on 3 meals from between 8 and 9 months too

Also, it's usually advised to do milk then solids until 12 months but given that your DS is only having solids twice a day, and his age, I'd personally swap over to solids before milk.

You might find this book helpful and once you reach 12 months, try some gentle night weaning.

Also, make sure you get him outside for a second tine each day, perhaps before lunch or after his afternoon nap.

How are you getting on today @Hapimumny?

If you did manage to start this day at 6, is he still awake?

I'd try and get him into bed tonight at 7. I used to give them Tea/Dinner at 5 then start Bath, Books, Boob and Bevin bed asleep by 7.

Thank you for your advice 🤗
We went to bed at 4:30am so I was too exhausted to wake up early. He had a breast feed at 7am ( I was so tired) then one at 9am so we are awake now. I'm going to give him breakfast ( baby porridge- this is the solid food I meant in the original post).

I think your right about the day light, I will take him for a walk straight after.

I think based on him waking at 9ish bedtime might be 9pm today if I follow your advice ( honestly 9pm would be fantastic). Then the following days the bed time might get earlier and earlier 🤞

11 month old needs to be eating three solid meals a day. They should only need two naps a day at this point. Be tough and set a timetable and stick to it. Good luck.

Did he not go to bed at all till 4.30am? What was he doing fir all of that time?

Agree with Cornet. I think you're going to have a few tired days to get the benefit of him sleeping switching his daytime sleep for nighttime sleep. Have you got a DP/DH who can get him up and give him his breakfast in the morning?

As for his food, there a good guide on what 11 month olds should be having here including advice on portion sizes.

The guide on what he should be eating from 12 months is here and some information on BFing and solids here on Kellymom.

Thank you Cornettttto for your advice. My little one is heavily reliant on breast milk, which I don't mind. He is a good weight, and although he has two meals he has snacks as well. We struggled to get him to eat solids at the start. He use to constantly rejected food, but has slowly come around. I am working towards him having 3 meals.

Also will try to be a little more stricter on the nap times.

DuaLipaSuction, my DH is a frontline worker. So he does very long shifts (early mornings and late nights or night shift coming home mid morning). On his days off he helps me.Things are made more difficult as I'm homeschooling my oldest. Yesterday was a little better as he finally went to sleep at 12:30am then woke up at 8am ( he had a 'power up' nap at 6pm when I was preparing dinner). I was definitely more stricter with napping which made a difference but I think I need to prepare dinner during his afternoon nap so he doesn't nap later and power up😉. I think we are on the path but it will take consistency and patience 🤞.