I can not stop screaming at my children.

[Hannahccc]

My children are 6,4,2 mainly my 6 yo im screaming at her because she is messi g about when we are getting out for school- doesnt like socks nickers, vest coat or boots. It makes the other two scared aswell, i shout that much that i give myself headache. Then im heartbroke all day until i pick her up. Its not every day but most.

You just found like a normal parent to me I've only got one , so you seem like wonder mum to me having 3. Sometimes I shout too and feel guilty, kids do know how to press our buttons.

If you can't stop shouting, what have you tried so far? Have you tried doing a picture board with times on for her. So you draw out pictures of what's expected at what times during the morning like 7am wake up, 7.05 have a wee, 7.10 get dressed.

Whispering instead of shouting does get their attention usually too and the change does usually get them to listen. Have you read "How to talk so kids will listen" too?

Or do you think you may have some depression?

How are you tonight @Hannahccc?

I like that whispering part: thank you. The drawings unfortunately i dont think would succeed in my chaotic life style. But I will
Defo try to whispering tomorrow x

You're just a stressed mum. We've all been there!

Try recognise the signs in yourself that you're getting stressed and count to ten or sing a song or do anything other than shout. Find something that works for you.

The fact that you're on here asking for advice shows you're a good mum and you want to make changes. Good luck!

I found a reward chart helped at that age. It might also find out how they deal with behaviour at school - if it works, mirror that? Also warn the 6yo that if she carries on doing/not doing x, she'll make Mummy shout. If she doesn't like it, this may help.

I remember shouting a lot when my DSs were about that age. It has got better!

All the best.

All great responses thank you everyone. It was a much better today making an conscious effort to not shout. X