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What's the worst your child has ever behaved?

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keyhole · 30/10/2007 19:43

Think my dd aged 4 peaked today. She was with my mum whilst I was at work. They went shopping. She saw donuts. When my mum said no she apparently screamed, kicked, shouted and had to be forcibly removed from the shop. En route to the car, the donuts were trashed and shoppers looked horrifed. When my poor mother eventually got her into the car she was rewarded with a slap around the face. She then spent rest of the afternoon in her room screaming and crying until just before I got home at 4pm.
When I got home, my mum was clearly upset, dd was sucking up big time and I was absolutely horrified. She has since gone to bed with no story (ultimate punishment) and I am mortified she has behaved this way.
I am hoping this is a one off. So just wondering what's the worst experience of bad behaviour you have had, or has my dd trumped everyone?

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notnowbernard · 30/10/2007 19:48

My 4yr old dd is also being a bit 'challenging' at the moment...

She apparently went ballistic the other day when my Mum dared to offer her (as a treat!) a Milky Bar instead of Buttons (ShockHorror)

Am hoping it's a phase

notnowbernard · 30/10/2007 19:49

She's nearly 4!

OverMyDeadBody · 30/10/2007 19:50

My usually placid quite well behaved 4 yr old has outbursts like this occasionally, usually when he is very tired/bored/unstimulated. There is nothing I can do to stop it or calm him down, I think it is quite normal and inevitable. They are testing the boundaries and their newfound independance etc.

Your DD's outburst doesn't wouns any worse than the worst one DS had. Luckily it doesn't last or happen very often!

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keyhole · 30/10/2007 19:51

Mine has just started school. I am prepared for over tired, irritable behaviour ... but this was something else!

Can completely understand feeling cheated out of chocolate with a milky bar though!

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OverMyDeadBody · 30/10/2007 19:51

DS is especially stubborn about saying sorry!

'Tis a battle of wills with four year olds!

stripeymama · 30/10/2007 19:53

Oh where do I start...

The Liam Gallagher moment in a cafe?

The time she bit me cos I threw the sodding Argos catalogue away?

The swearing at granny because she wanted to go out in the rain with no coat on?

The time she hit my friend's daughter round the head with a broomstick during an argument over an imaginary cat?

stripeymama · 30/10/2007 19:54

Funnily enough, dd is also four...

notnowbernard · 30/10/2007 19:57

I thought things got easier at 4...

(naive emoticon)

yaddayah · 30/10/2007 19:57

Sympathies

Due to me telling DD she wasn't getting every toy in the toy shop I had dd (3.5) rolling on the floor in front of the main thoughfare of shopping centre screaming "don't hit me again mummy"

Cue lots of old bags shoppers with faces like sucked lemons

I was very tempted to leave her there

Instead I had to shamefacedly drag her (literally kicking and screaming) as she'd developed the strength of an an enraged bull and was impossible to pick up the length of Lakeside to find the car.. strap her in .. still screaming and have her yell the 45 min drive home

Spent the next 2 hours alternatively sulking/screaming/sobbing/kicking and yelling before she gave in and fell asleep on bedroom floor

(and no I have never hit her .. the don't hit me again was supremely inventive.. I was actually strangely proud of her cunning)

Do I win ?

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keyhole · 30/10/2007 19:59

LOL stripey mama.
Am starting to feel less like I've raised a granny bashing hoodie!

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keyhole · 30/10/2007 20:02

I know - where does this strength come from. The worst thing is onlookers. My dd used the local shop as the scene of the OP - don't know if they'll serve us again! At least until we have paid for the trashed donuts anyway...

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HairyIrene · 30/10/2007 20:19

nnb, lol milky bar..she had normal reaction imo!
missed the terrible twos more like the riotious threes ..we are heading to this place..

stripeymama · 30/10/2007 20:39

What is my dd on then? The frightful fours? Can think of at least one more appropriate F-word but will not lower the tone.

notnowbernard · 30/10/2007 20:46

On the whole, dd1 is great. She really is lovely - kind, good fun, happy.

But God, she can be stroppy sometimes! And really crap at the not listening thing.

She often leaves her manners in a ditch, too

stripeymama · 30/10/2007 20:58

Yeah same wit mine. She is enerally polite and charming, kind to smaller children etc etc. In fact I could burst with pride most of the time.

But its just me and her at home and its very intense at times, we do bicker a bit and she is very stubborn and argumentative(la la la la la don't know where she gets it tra la la).

madamy · 30/10/2007 20:58

think you've actually got my dd - and I thought it was only me with a feisty four! Please someone tell me it gets better as they veer towards 5?

HairyIrene · 30/10/2007 21:49

manners in a ditch, lol, heh, that sounds too familiar nnb..
..crikey ds racing towards the frightful fiesty fours ..i can feel it coming on..

mantratime
..it dont get easier just different..

Smithagain · 30/10/2007 22:23

I think the first term of Reception is the pits, behaviour-wise. They use up all their niceness at school and leave the rest for us :-(

So far, Year 1 is better ... although she still knows EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING, obviously

UnquietDad · 30/10/2007 22:25

7-year-old girls are "challenging". Everyone I know who has one says the same. The behaviour goes beyond tantrumming into real sulky, pouty, nasty, door-slamming horribleness. They are like mini-teenagers.

RoyKinnear · 30/10/2007 22:27

4 boys nothing too bad ever
1 girl 13 NOW horrid

Hallowedam · 30/10/2007 22:27

I'm sure I remember thinking my Mummy knew everything. My 4yo ds thinks I know nothing and delights in telling me so. Little pickle!

He is going through a phase of hitting me atm and being generally horrible quite a lot of the time. Mainly towards me, though, am v. grateful he's not normally too bad in public.

Hallowedam · 30/10/2007 22:28

(Now I feel guilty, he's also lovely a lot of time. Honest.)

nooka · 30/10/2007 22:31

My ds used to throw the most incredible tantrums, and the frightful fours were definitely worse that the terrible twos with both of them. The details have blurred into a sort of mess of screamming paddies, and now at 7 and 8 they are both pretty lovely (mostly!)

mimsum · 30/10/2007 22:32

well if they do get better as they veer towards 5, no-one's told dd (5 two weeks ago)

she's been utterly hideous since starting reception - although when I pick her up from school her teacher tells me she couldn't imagine a more perfect reception pupil

On Sunday I was playing the piano for 5 minutes - the only 5 minutes I'd had to myself all day - we'd gone for a wet and windy walk in the morning, read stories, made leaf pictures, had lunch in a cafe etc etc but no, that wasn't good enough for her ... she spent the next 2 hours screaming, hitting, kicking - aargh

she's had tantrums about seams in tights, me putting a picture half an inch too low on her wall, the 'wrong' snack - you name it, she's tantrummed over it

and compared to the boys at the same age, she's a piece of cake

ds2's lovely at the moment though - he really turned around soon after his 6th birthday - he's 8 next week - does that help?

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keyhole · 31/10/2007 08:18

Am starting to feel more 'normal' - if that's at all possible! I think I just expect the terrible twos to be the tantrum time and then they're gone. Aparrently not.

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