I've lost sight of what is usual I think.
3 dc. Two of the dc are easy going, have their moments like all children. Third dc a complete headache. I love all my dc but my third dc causes real problems. Example we go for a walk two of the dc follow instructions - "stay on the pavement please in case a car should come". Third dc runs off and doesn't stay on the pavement (dc nearly 8) runs across the road. During the walk we see a school friend who is isolating as are we - I tell dc not to hug friend because of 'the bug' dc stands next to me and does that thing whirling her hand next to ear as if to say my mother is mad. Nothing is ever pleasant with this dc. I dread picking dc up from school for fear they have got into fights/been rude at school etc. something I've never had with other dc. I've looked at my parenting but I've treated the 3 dc the same. I've not taken dcs out on day trips etc. because of behaviour of dc. I have rung for professional advice because I am convinced dc's behaviour is not usual...but never been able to hang it on anything. Dc presents as bright but does not pay attention (current investigations are querying dyslexia but I think there are other things at play) - wilful and does exactly what they want...also very sociable - overly so with strangers. I love all my dcs but this dc - their behaviour limits our life. Pre-school teacher actually confessed she shouted at dc...it's not just me. Every year I wait for dc to grow out of this behaviour, wondering now if it will ever change. Can anyone relate?