Has anyone else had a call from preschool staff saying they need to go and get their 2 year old because they are having a really bad tantrum?
I got the call yesterday and I ran over there and my 2.3 dd was in their toilets laying on the floor screaming and wouldn't let anyone pick her up. Due to covid parents are not allowed in but this time they had to make an exception. My daughter wouldn't walk to get her coat and shoes on. I just about managed to get her shoes on and had to give up with the coat which wasn't a big deal as I live across the road. She kept writhing out of my arms while I was knelt on the floor and she threw herself on the floor shouting and kicking her legs. The staff said she had an accident (I'm toilet training her) and she started to go into a meltdown because she didn't want them to get her changed. She was in dry underwear and trousers when I got there so they must of managed of to do it before she got inconsolable. The other parents were lined up outside to pick up their children watching me trying to console a toddler whose tantrum was so bad she probably didn't know how to stop. I had to pick her up and juggle her things at the same time while she was shouting and writhing about in my arms. I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me. I have no idea what was wrong with her or why it got so bad there. It went on for an extra hour when I got home. She needed a bath because she's had another accident, both types and rolled about in some mud in the garden shouting. I thought there no point with naughty step because she's worked herself up so much she and I don't know what's wrong. I negotiated with her to get in the bath, which by then she started to calm down and ignore me to play with her toys. But everytime I tried to clean her she said no. Talk about a conflict of her needs with her interests, bit of a tricky one. Her language hasen't developed properly, it's only random single words so she can only understand my negotionation through the simplest of forms, bribery or I take something. Bribery I'm not the biggest fan of so I took her toy and said mummy is asking you to get in the bath or let me wipe you up because you covered in poo, mud and wee. I know you want to play but it's very important you are clean or your skin will get sore, so please get into the bath or let me wipe yoi then you can have your toy after. I gestured with baby wipes and pointed to the bathroom while I said all this and eventually she stopped being defiant and got on the bath by herself. She was happy as Larry afterwards. I just wish I knew why she had a meltdown at preschool that bad. I feel really bad for them and wonder what the other parents thought of me. Have I done something wrong in raising her? Am I terrible mum? These may sound ridiculous but I'm a first time mum and generally anxious and unconfident.