Parental abuse/ respite?

[copperbopper]

Long story short my 11 year old step son abuses me and his dad. We get kicked and punched and spit at, called names, swore at and things thrown at us. Is there any respite available for parents who experience this sort of thing? I'm on the edge and about to give up. The child has been under social services for nearly 3 years on and off because of his behaviour and no changes have been made. I know there's respite for parents with children with disabilities but any for those with children with behavioural problems? :(

Also to add. I have video evidence of the abuse, should I take it to the authorities? I'm just so unsure

Not heard of respite for this. Have you asked the Social Worker?

Yeah I've asked a few of them as had different ones throughout the years and they've all said they won't do it. But I know it exists because it says in section 20 that they can be placed in temporary foster care to give parents respite and allow them to rest for a while. Every time I mention section 20 they always deny it.

Do you know why he behaves like this OP?

If I knew why then I probably wouldn't be having this problem. He was neglected by his mum and I think he now has attachment issues, he's also being bullied at school so might have something to do with that but in the end i have no idea.

Is he currently being bullied? What are the school and you doing about it?

Is he getting any help like CAHMS?

He says he's been bullied most days, but we've already spoke with him about how it's unfair to then bully his parents due to this. School know about this and I'm hoping are doing what they can do help. He attends weekly anger management classes in school and has had previous counselling in school and with Bernardo's. Camhs won't take him as they don't do anger apparently.

Has he given you details of the bullying incidents? What kinds of things are happening?

He hardly speaks about it, just says he gets pushed around on the playground and gets called names and gets into fights

And do you report it each and every time? I've found that it's very important for them to know that someone is looking out fir them and can help them to stop the bullying.

Does he get bullied at home via his phone/Xbox too?