Hi everyone, if anyone has any advice or experience please help. We’re struggling so much with this at the moment.
My 8 year old step daughter is bed wetting every night and it’s becoming a big issue in our home.
She has bed pads which she will change herself but she doesn’t seem concerned at all that she’s doing it. When we ask her why she doesn’t go to the bathroom, she says it’s just because she’s asleep and doesn’t wake up but we know that it’s not true as she mostly wets in the morning but won’t physically get out of bed to go. We’ve tried getting her up earlier so she can go but she will just go again once she’s gone back to bed. She’s been tested by so many different professionals and there’s nothing wrong with her physically.
We had to take away pull ups. She will sit there and wet herself on purpose before even going to bed sometimes if we put her in pull-ups as she knows she’s wearing a pull-up so feels she doesn’t need to go to the bathroom. One morning when she had a dry night, she chose to play in her room instead of going to the toilet when she woke up and instead of going to the bathroom when she needed to, she went straight to her bed and did it there instead. The bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
The smell is so strong, I can smell it throughout the house. We’re washing so many sheets and wet clothes that we’re ending up with loads of regular laundry waiting to be done because we have her sheets to wash first.
Her younger brother shares a bedroom with her and he is starting to not want to share a bedroom with her anymore because of the smell. What baffles me the most is she just doesn’t seem bothered at all, almost like she laughs it off. We’ve tried everything: reward charts, no liquids after 6pm, waking her up in the night to go, making her change her own sheets, rewarding her when she has a dry night but nothing is working.
What doesn’t help is that when she stays over at her mothers on weekends, her mum puts her in pull-ups as she doesn’t want to deal with the issue as she says she can’t cope which then doesn’t help when she comes back as she’s used to wearing pull-ups over the weekends.
I’m pregnant also and in the high risk category and it’s just causing so much more stress.
She’s on the waiting list for an alarm but it has been months and we’re still waiting so could be a while off yet.
Any advice is so welcomed!