my ds 2..6 delayed speech would love to hear sucess stories and advise for me

[bubblagirl]

i have recieved great advise on someone else's thread so thought best create my own

my ds is 2.6 can say single words most not pronounced properly is not putting words together

we are awaiting SALT have had a nice therapist come to my house twice as i have such a wait he does try to say words but we dont seem to be progressing

just wanting to hear from people who have been here how they dealt with it and some reassurance that he will talk like other children his age

i'm beginning to feel i'm not doing enough for him we sing we read we paly games what more can i do to help him

sorry long rant but really would love to hear from others in my situation as no one understands my frustration and worry for him

Albert Einstein didn't talk until he was 3! It's true....

I have a friend who's son didn't speak much till about 3 and now she can't stop him talking...they are all so different.

terrormator its the waiting thats frustrating as it seems to be alot of time wasted that we could be doing something so i'm going to take ds to snap and we'll sit and watch speak and sign dvd and maybe that might help

hope your dd gets a place soon bless her

it just feels like it'll never happen i know it will and it'll just happen like the first step once they conker it no stopping them same i suppose once they say there first sentence wish that day would hurry up x

bubblagirl, i didn't talk more than a few words until i was 4
a good friend of mine was the same - he got 5 As at A level and is a top city banker now!

2.6 is still quite young - do a simple, slow, clear "running commentary" as much as you can repeating words (like the apple post before) as that should really help.

At 18m DD1 was speaking more than my niece who was 3.5 - my niece is now 5 and totally caught up, so try not to worry too much just yet.

thanks amidaiwish i know its still young but when health proffessionals are telling yopu how much he should and shouldn't be doing it makes you worry as i fear he'll be behind but have heard many stories of not talking then catching up in no time so cant wait for it to be his turn x

i've bought some omega 3 oil today but he has done so much better with his speech today i think we might finally be getting somewhere

he has tried to say everything i've said today i said one arm in and before i could say two arms he said 2 arms

you see, he will get there - i really would try not to worry yet.

my mum was really worried about me and when i did start talking she encouraged me so much that i got shy and didn't want to talk. Then when i did talk i talked so fast to get it over with as everyone used to stop and listen so intently.

as for HV - what do they know? seriously, do a search on mumsnet. they know little to nothing!!

I can't help you as have no direct experience, but if anecdotal evidence is any help, Einstien did not speak at all until 3 and was still not fluent in language at 9.

Please don't believe that you are doing anything worng, I have a friend who get comments like you do about her dd. She is a great mother and does all she can, children just do things at different rates and people do not think enough before they open their big gobs!

Hello Bubblagirl

Here's a little success story for you, my godson didn't talk at all before about 3, he 'failed' several developmental checkups, had speech therapy and was in an SEN group till he started school. He still wasn't very articulate by then, it was very noticeable compared to other children his age and caused my friend lots of worry.

By the time he was 10 he was the only child in his state primary to get to our local highly selective grammar school, which he has just left with 3 A levels and gone to a very good university to study accounting. This is perfectly true, and just goes to show that little or no early speech may well end up meaning nothing much at all.

thank you so much it does make me feel so much better when i hear things like that last 2 days he is attempting to copy me if i said one arm he would of just said arm or one not 2 words now he says one arm and a few other things noticed 2 and 3 words he is copying me not coming out with it on his own or attempting conversation but finally putting them together

went and bought sandwich spread with omega 3 fish fingers lol doing anything to help now he is so bright though has full mouse control on computer plays games for 3+ on his own so he has the learning capacity and patience to succeed so i think now over last 2 days i have seen him wanting to say more

i say are you a good boy he has trouble with putting b sound with words but he says back good goy hooray yes he is i could kiss his cheeks off lol finally i'm seeinbg a way forward thanks so much every one

it feels nice to be able to share this with people that understand such a small development but see it as big as i do as others are like oh nice considering there dc are chewing there ears off with conversation to me this is worth more than gold i'm actually seeing him progress

still copying 2 words today hooray i'm so happy still not asking me things in conversation but if i say stuff he is is copying what i'm saying

good, glad he's doing better with speech now.

Hi Bubblagirl - just want to add my own story re my DS delayed speech. He has just turned 4.

DS was always a quiet baby, he never did the whole baby talk thing, he never made noises really at all - he only cried. I mentioned it to my HV when he was 2 and said that she could refer me to the ST if I really wanted. I don't think she thought it necessary at the time, but I knew that the couple of words he could say were badly prounounced and he made no effort (despite us trying) to talk at all. He had his own sign language which worked well and a couple of made up words for the important stuff.

We were reffered quite quickly and following an assessment from the ST, they agreed to a course of Therapy.

At first there wasn't much change, but he was still young. It was suggested that I put him into our school nursery early so he had to interact with other children (DS is only child).

His speech improved, but he couldn't pronounce constinants and didn't put endings / beginnings on words - nobody really understood him. But, once he started nursery (3.5)he really started improving.

We still go to the ST and he isn't anywhere near 'normal' - when he concentrates and we remind him he is quite good, but his spontaneous speech is stil a bit iffy !

The teachers at school have been great and now he has to make himself understood to his piers, he is coming along leaps and bounds.

All you can do is encourage him, he still sometimes gets fustrated - but the ST gave us some great games and photocopied loads of excerices for us to do at home.

It really does get better....I'm pleased that I pushed it from such a young age as otherwise he wouldn't have got referred until school.

Sorry, for such a long and rambling post.

M

Our son was delayed with speech (also diagnosed with developmental delay)We attended a Hanen course-which we found beneficial,one of the points which was made was not to talk for your child. You give them the time to answer even if they do so with gesture instead of jumping in and answering.Our son is a complete chatterbox now and is no longer behind with speech,we've been discharged from ST and OT.

Hope your little one continues to progress.

thanks northumberland lass and going friggingcrazy

i just find it easier to hear from other people in same situation as dont really have many pople to talk to about it who understand like the small steps he is talking to everyone else they arent as impressed as there dc could always do this

to me its a proud moment that i want to share

so i dont want to keep boring people with his small milestones but it makes me feel better to taklk to others in same situation and maybe seeing how he ios progressing will give others the reassurance needed

so thanks everyone and remember to let me know how your little ones get on

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Slightly different scenario but after initially speaking individual words clearly DD's speech then became so garbled until she was 3 that only DS could work out what she wanted! It was only when she went to playschool and she had to communicate with an entire roomful of people who couldn't understand her that she began to talk clearly.

I also agree with other posters that some bright children have delayed speech - some will not say a word or a sentence until they know they will do it properly.

Great that your DS is now copying two words - hopefully his talking will now take off.

Someone recommended this book to me
BabyTalk by Sally Ward
might be worth a look

thank you theblonde i shall look into that i'll do anything to help him x

just thopught id update my ds speech is coming along still no conversations but he has made huge leaps with his words can reply to me and has started putting 2-3 words together

nursery also phoned and he will go 2 mornings a week from monday so hopefully this will help has SALT review in 4 weeks as his pronounciations are not good he can say each word singually but not as a word ball becomes gall etc but he is getting there hooray

oh that's great news that's he's starting to put words together bubblagirl, sound's like he's really coming on well now