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First day and a disaster

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:08

My dd is 25 months and for the last 3 weeks has not stopped wanting to go on the toilet and potty. She has shown a real interest, so I have been gently introducing her to it. Today I bit the bullet and took the pull ups off. I have followed the Gina Ford technique and stayed in all day going at it.

I have not had one wee or poo in the potty, they have all been on the floor.....

she is just standing there and doing them, I have been putting her on all day every 15mins or so, explained the star chart, even awarded myself with a star! for going to the toilet....

What am I doing wrong? Do I continue, it would be hard not to as she just keeps taking her pull ups off and saying wee wee mummy and sitting on the potty anyway.

I don't expect her to have perfected it of course but one surley I could hope for.

Help.....

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NAB3 · 26/10/2007 20:10

She is trying, bless her, she sits on the potty. Keep going.

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professorplum · 26/10/2007 20:13

Don't worry. It will get better over the next few days.

Pollyanna · 26/10/2007 20:13

well I am of the "what is the hurry?" school of thought. my experience is that when my children were ready, we went for it and there were no accidents at all. so if it were me, I would put the pull-ups back on and wait a bit longer (she is only 25 months after all)

Having said that, many parents are prepared to continue with it, and persevere with the star charts etc etc. If all the signs have been there before, it may just have been a bad day and it may work better tomorrow

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:39

I am in no hurry at all, I would happily have left her till she was 3 if that was what she wanted but I just thought because she was showing such an interest that she was ready.

Tonight she stood there and did about 3 wee's in the space of an hour, does that mean she doesn't have bladder control.

At nursery she is constantly pulling her pull ups off and saying wee wee, I don't know if she is ready or not....

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Pollyanna · 26/10/2007 20:46

sorry madame I didn't mean to imply that you were in a hurry. (more that I delay as much as possible when I come to these things). Why don't you give it one more day and see how that goes?

bozza · 26/10/2007 20:49

I would keep on trying personally if she is taking her pullups off. I think she is quite young and it might take a couple of days to sink in.

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:53

Oh Pollyanna, I didn't think you were implying anything, I appreciate your thoughts. I am just such a straight talker

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:54

I wish in a way she wasn't so keen so then I could delay it

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:55

tomorrow I was going to put her in knickers as apose to nothing today, what do you think?

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harpsicorpsecarrier · 26/10/2007 20:56

ditch it.
take the potty with you wherever you go
put her in trousers and pull ups.
take her to the toilet when she asked
she isn't ready

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:56

but what do I do if I do need to go out, do I put her back in a pull up which I know I am not supposed to do but if I don't I know she is going to be wet

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madame · 26/10/2007 20:59

So Harpsicorpsecarrier, are you saying you think she isn't ready but to let her sit on it whenever she asks.

I am not quite sure what you mean, sorry

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SquirBOOdle · 26/10/2007 21:45

I wish DS3 was only 25 months old, he is 2.10 and just isn't getting it. DS1 was 2.3 and DS2 was 2.5 so this is really late for me. He knows what to do, he just doesn't seem to be bothered! I have decided not to worry too much atm, but time is getting on.

Someone said to put them in trousers but no pants/knickers as the pants/knickers feel like they have a nappy on. DS refuses to wear nothing. So this is my next plan. Don't know if that would help your DD.

I might try the giving of stickers to DS2 when he goes and see if this encourages DS3...yer never know!

SquirBOOdle · 26/10/2007 21:48

And yes, I agree with Harpsi, if she asks then let her try...definately. DS will try but he doesn't seem to be able to make himself wee iyswim. So I don't know if he doesn't have the control or if he simply can't be bothered.

She is young at 25 months but I would have done as you have if she has been quite enthusiastic recently.

It's early days though, keep trying. It's a pain more than anything else isn't it, clearing up wet floors!

chankins · 26/10/2007 21:49

I would put in nappy or pull up when you are out, until she has mastered it more confidently at home. Wet clothes are a nightmare in the winter time.She is rather young, as both my dds didn't fully master it til gone 3, and my 3 and a half yr old still has accidents. However my neice was like your lo and showed a real interest before the age of 2, and she mastered it very quickly at this age and has been dry since then, so it is possible ! Mine were just a bloody nightmare

tori32 · 26/10/2007 21:56

Madame do not despair! Keep going as you have, you haven't done anything wrong. It takes time for it to click. If she is no further in 3-4 days then stop, put her back into pullups or nappies and try again in a month or so.
There could be lots of reasons why it may not work.

She doesn't have enough bladder muscle control yet.
She needs more association between the wee and potty.
She is too busy to concentrate on sitting.

If she is truely ready then these things will be resolved in a few days with practice.

If she has a regular pooing time it is still worth putting her on the potty for these as some children are frightened by this as they think it is a bit of them falling off.

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madame · 26/10/2007 22:09

Thank you everyone, I will keep going and keep you posted. Thanks for the support

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bozza · 27/10/2007 09:46

I think at this age you need one or two lucky successes for the process to click and then the child better understands what to do.

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