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Nearly 3 year WON'T sleep in his bed... Help please!

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Aghhhhhhhhhh · 08/01/2021 23:48

My toddler son (very nearly 3 years old) will NOT sleep in his bed AT ALL!! It all started months ago when me and my DP Switched our 2 sons rooms around giving our toddler the bigger of the 2 bedrooms as he has more toys and our pre teen literally just sleeps and games in his bedroom so it made sense, we spent an awful lot of money decorating both bedrooms to each of our sons tastes and our eldest has a new loft bed screwed into the bedroom wall so swapping back isn't an option at all. Anyway back to my issue.... Ever since then our toddler will not sleep in his bed, instead he sleeps on his bedroom floor behind his stair gate, initially we thought it was a phase but he shows no signs of stopping, we've had to resort to putting his cot bed mattress behind his stair gate so he has a comfier sleep (he will happily sleep without the mattress so putting it back on the bed will make no difference trust me we've tried!) we brought light bulbs that change colour and intensity with a remote/brought an alexa for his bedroom so he has soothing sounds all night etc but he just won't sleep in the bed, on occasion I can get him to fall asleep in his bed but he will wake up again around 10pm and get on the floor!! He's also started to wake up at midnight crying saying he wants to come into our bed (which isn't always feasible as DP works) so I change his nappy and put moshi sleep stories on the alexa which settles him back down. How can I get him to stay in his bed ALL night?? How can I get him to stop sleeping on the floor?? Ive wondered if getting him a single bed would work but if it doesn't I've spent money on a bed that won't be used, I've considered putting the side of the cot bed back on but he can climb over it, me and my DP are at a loss on what to do!! Health visitor said its a phase at his 2 and a half year check but he's showing no signs of stopping!!

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Wherethereshope · 09/01/2021 04:58

I don't know, but here's a random idea..

Take all the furniture out of his room then let him choose where to put it, I wonder if he likes a cosier space so maybe creating a sleep zone and a play zone in his room? Putting a set of drawers or something to divide it up? Also, a sleep tent/ canopy might help him to feel more settled.

All sorts of things might have unsettled him, the change, the bigger space, feeling funny with more toys around him.

We bought DS 4 a single bed not long ago, go him to choose the duvet and he thinks it's the best thing in the world!

Wherethereshope · 09/01/2021 05:00

Ps.. in my experience health visitors say everything is a phase! I gave up asking their opinion in the end.

SuperSleepyBaby · 10/01/2021 00:11

Why does it matter if he sleeps on the mattress near the door if that makes him happy? You can just put the mattress back on the bed in the mornings.

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