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3 year old almost definitely autistic ..

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Lora88 · 06/01/2021 22:56

I’ve known since he was around 6 months old , I could just tell he was different to my older son , he never babbled , delayed in all milestones etc. He’s just turned 3 and today had a starter session at nursery . I have to say I left feeling depressed , even though I’ve always known he’s more than likely autistic and maybe other delays too it was so hard seeing him in that setting today , I couldn’t help but compare , he’s a gorgeous happy boy and has some great abilities very advanced in maths etc but he has absolutely no idea how to communicate with other people and is extremely sensory he stood stimming / flapping / making noises and swaying side to side throughout the visit and although the nursery teachers were made aware before he started I couldn’t help feel embarrassed about it , I’m sorry I know this makes me sound terrible but I could see the other parents looking and I just felt like I wasn’t coping I couldnt wait to get out of the nursery. I’ve done everything I can for him , he’s on the pathway for diagnosis , I’m in regular contact with health visitor , he’s under speech and language therapy etc and they all advised I send him nursery , but now it’s here I just don’t know how he will cope when nursery officially starts I feel so sad for him that he’s different to the other children , any advice or anyone going through anything similar?

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BackforGood · 06/01/2021 23:34

My advice is that you have no reason to feel embarrassed.
You've got this.
You've already instigated everything you can do, and now he is starting Nursery, which is great.
Work together with him, and talk to them about whether he will need an EHCP, and how to get that started before school.

Lora88 · 06/01/2021 23:36

@BackforGood

Thank you for your kind words :) a

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june2007 · 07/01/2021 00:13

Don,t worry about how he will cope. In the nursery I work in we hadve had children with Aspergers, children with Autism and global delay, children with cerarabl paslsy and global delay, a child with other physical issues, and other children with out diagnoses but who have senco support. (Mainstream and this is not the first nursery I have been in with this situation.) If it,s a good nursery they will support him and children are very good at exceptiing others.

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