7 year old getting her to do as she's told

[purpleme12]

How do you get your 7 year old to do what they should be?
Eg going to bed when they should be?
I can't keep picking her up and bringing her up when she won't do things like this and won't listen
She's strong willed
I just need some help

What consequences does she have if she doesn't go to bed? Does she have a routine like Tea/Dinner, half an hours TV then up to bed and you read a chapter or two to her?

She has a sort of routine but I guess it depends it's not exactly the same every time. For example tea might be early one day then bath then bed or another day it might be tea then bed straight away. Before that it's sometimes playing or watching Tele or she might have gone to an activity.

She reads to me before bed then after

I didn't give a consequence last time this happened. Not that I never give consequences I do)
But what would I do for things like this?
What kind of consequences?

My DD is older but at that age we least stuck to a strict bedtime routine, mainly because she was bloody murder to cope with if we didn't.

Consequences for refusing to go to bed are usually going to bed 15 minutes earlier the next night. DD gets a warning that's what's going to happen and choose to go to bed. I'm quite happy to keep adding on the 15 minutes and she has tested it so she knows I'll carry through with it.

I think I find it hard sticking to exact time but perhaps this is something I should think about. Thank you I didn't even think about going to bed earlier either
Do you have a time when lights should be out or anything or did you let her do stuff as long as she was in her bed?

My DD has always needed a lot of sleep so at 7 it would be lights out by 7.30 but to be far, by the time we'd read to her she'd usually be asleep before then anyway.

I have a 7 year old. We don't have the issue so much with bedtime but things like getting shoes on to go out etc. I find I just have to focus on getting him to do that thing. So I ask him to get his shoes on and then watch make sure I'm following through on him putting them on. Before I used to ask him to get his shoes on then go and do something else and come back to find they weren't on. Make sure she has your full attention with the task. Slowly it is getting better for us