Partiality

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Our nearly-2 year old has got very stuck on me and is refusing to engage much with dp, who does a lot of care of him incl 1-2 days a week, bathtime, etc. It's driving us both nuts and quite upsetting! He actually averts his eyes, yells for me, shrieks nonono if dp goes in at night, etc. Is this normal, why is he doing it, will it pass, please reassure /give any tips... thanks.... he is still breastfeeding which I suppose might be relevant, but not much.

This sounds very similar to DD1. Used to shout no no, scream if dp tried to do anything, especially in the middle of the night. We used to try to fight it, but trust me it is a losing battle.

Stick it out they do grow out of it, but it comes slowly and surely.

Good luck.

This too shall pass....

It's horrible at the time but your partner should not take it personally. You'll probably be out of favour in a few weeks! (no offence meant BTW) x

2.10 DS goes through phases of this- sometimes he only wants me and can barely bring himself to even say "morning daddy" let alone allow dh to pick him up, other spells he's very content with either of us. Think it's fairly normal but from our experience I know that doesn't help dh feel any better. FWIW, if it's been a particulrly vehement "I don't want daddy I want you mummy no I neeeeeed you" sort of spell, ds and dh have had a day to themselves to re-connect (hurrah a break for me!) and that's worked a treat. Doesn't guarantee it won't happen again though.

Good luck!
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Hi - my dd1 was like this for ages, especially around the ages one and a half to two. It used to worry me too, as I thought she really didn't like her daddy ! Like everyone else here says though, it does pass before you know it!

my ds did this for ages i left him with my dp as often as i could and let him calm him down and distact him with games and my ds soon grew out of it the more you take him the more he will do it as i did this with my ds as i couldnt handle seeing him so upset

my dp used to be rreal hurt by this so forced myself to go out listening to ds scream while i'm walking up the road couldnt relax whole time i was out came back and ds was having great time encourage more alone time for them he will grow out of it i can leave ds with dp and he doesnt even know i'm gone now lol