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2YO Social Skills

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MrsD1987CDMum · 13/12/2020 15:56

Hello, I'm a little concerned about my son socialising with other children at nursery. The nursery have feedback to me, that my son has started having tantrums if other children sit near him, try to play with him or just go near him. He will go and play with others but if they approach him he gets upset. He's been at the same nursery for over 2 years and this started just before lockdown but has got worse since he went back to nursery after lockdown. He is also frequently saying he's scared at nursery and that he wants to run away. When I drop him off he gets really upset, which he never used to. The nursery staff couldn't offer any advice in why he could have started being like this but would keep an eye on it. Hes an only child and we don't have any play dates, especially this year. I'm not sure whether this is to do with it, which would be an easy fix when we are able to socialise again. I'm more concerned about my OH and whether its to do with his behaviour. Although he can be a great father and my son does love him, he is hot headed, and loses his temper a lot. He has never hit either of us but can shout a fair bit and doesn't use the best language, my son is sensitive and not sure whether he is picking up on his mood swings and this is why he is anxious at nursery or if its just because of lockdown he's just used to being with me at home. I'm quite laid back and its obviously quieter at home when it's just me and my son so whether he has got used to it just being us two and nursery can be overwhelming for him. Nursery have said they haven't seen this behaviour from other children before, has anyone experienced anything similar or have any advice please? Thanks in advance xxx

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JingleJohnsJulie · 13/12/2020 17:41

Why is your "D"H shouting so much in the house?

MrsD1987CDMum · 13/12/2020 18:03

He's got a short fuse. I've spoken to him about it, it could be anything from a drink being spilled to something not working. I'm not making excuses, it isn't a daily occurrence or full on shouting. This wasn't posted to slate my OH, he is a good parent just different to me and these occasional outbursts worry me about the impact it could have on my son. I just wanted advice on my sons behaviour at nursery and thought it would help to know all of my concerns.

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JingleJohnsJulie · 13/12/2020 18:09

Honestly, I think your DS could be affected a lot more than you think.

What has the Keyworker suggested? Have they suggested to do the mchat test?

MrsD1987CDMum · 13/12/2020 18:11

They just said they would keep an eye on it and give me weekly updates. Hes very social outside nursery will say hello to people randomly and is very happy when with us, just has these upsets at nursery. Whats the mchat test?

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JingleJohnsJulie · 13/12/2020 18:14

It's a test for children between 16 and 30 months to see what their risk of ASD is. You can use it as a guide to see if he needs any further investigation for ASD. It's helpful to do it. If he's low risk then it's fairly unlikely he has ASD, if he's medium or high risk you can ask your GP fir a referral and Holley get the support he'll need before starting school.

MrsD1987CDMum · 13/12/2020 18:20

Hes 34 months now, but I'll speak to Nursery about ASD and see if there's anything they can help with, thanks.

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