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My 5 year old is getting into bed with me at night :(

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Jojo47 · 21/10/2007 20:29

For the last year my now 5 year old daughter has been getting into bed at night with me, I sleep very deeply and am now totally unaware this is happening until the morning when I awake.
I live on my own so it is down to me to sort out...any advice??

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Jojo47 · 21/10/2007 20:31

Just before anybody worries, I do wake up if I hear them cry! Its just her getting into bed with me I don't hear / feel.
I have also tried putting her on the toilet when I go to bed, leaving the lights on and off and making sure the temperature of her and her room is just right.

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sleepycat · 21/10/2007 20:32

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Joppe · 21/10/2007 20:43

Why does it need sorting? She obviously does not disturb you. Your bed is a nice place to be for her, and I can't see anything wrong with it.

juuule · 21/10/2007 20:48

I agree with the others. Why does it need sorting?

bigshopper · 21/10/2007 21:05

My 5 yr-old peed in my bed last night. I told him I'd prefer not to have his company tonight

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Jojo47 · 22/10/2007 11:47

It needs sorting because my boyfriends of 18 months will not stay the night, he sleeps very lightly and when she gets in, she wakes him up.

I want us to start living together as a family
but can't while this still happens and I want to sort it out!

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BabiesEverywhere · 22/10/2007 11:50

Get earplugs for the boyfriend

juuule · 22/10/2007 11:53

Earplugs a good idea. And I wouldn't be pushing my 5yo away for someone I'd known for 18m either. Can't he sleep in spare room until she grows out of this stage. Not going to make your dd feel great seemingly being displaced by your bf.

twinsetandpearls · 22/10/2007 12:01

If you don't want dd in your bed then you can encourage her to stay there with sticker charts etc that lead to rewards - that is what we did with dd, mainly because at five she was pissing in her bed getting up and then pissing in ours whilst also alowing the dog and two cats to come in with her

Howver now it doesn't bother us, infact we bought a superking bed so she could get in minus the animals.

However I think you will be causing resentment and jealousy between dd and your dp if it becomes clear that she is not allowed in your bed because of him. If you want to stop her coming into bed there needs to be a gap between her staying in her room and dp staying over.

Has she been getting into your bed since dp came along?

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