My 3 year old has started to do Some strange behaviour. I have a 4 Year diagnosed with ASD lives with dad. He has gone from easy toddler , baby advanced speech and no issues of anything but behaviour wise it’s like this and it’s been lately he wants me to stand bat the top of the stairs until he comes down and is in the sofa, I can’t go upstairs without him or he has melt down completely. Coming back from nursery he has to touch flowers and go back and a certain way, when we get home I can’t take my coat or shoes off until he has taken of his shoes and coat. I can’t go to toilet anymore he throws a tantrum unt go back and he sees me in the toilet again 😳 never ever has he been like this.
He is worse with his brother and constantly fights with him but also they play well, my other son 4 is on spectrum so already that’s quite difficult but my 3 year old has become unrecognisable lately. His speech is great but he screams a lot and quite frankly he gets upset so quickly. He has an obsession with flushing the toilet. Is potty trained no accident except again last 2 weeks a couple of times. So unlike him.
He will be 4 in The summer so we half way through the 3’s.
He wants to first for anything and gets so upset if he isnt.
He has been going to overnight at his dads for 3 months and always has terrible behaviour coming back and doesn’t me but he tells me he loves me and has missed me etc.
Don’t have a good relationship with dad very emotionally abusive and he plays mind games his dad does but I’m trying to co parent with him as best I can as we have an order in place.
Does this all sound like a phase? I know our family la has changed but I’m hoping it’s not anything more than just phases. I’m exhausted I’m allowed down the stairs until he has gone down, I’m not allowed to anything unless he does it first?!
Thank you