Does your baby have the same temperament as you did

[Peachyplumm]

So, I was super calm as a baby, hardly cried and slept all the time but my brother was the complete opposite and super energetic/hyper/crying all the time.

My brother has a son now and he is exactly the same, seeming to have taken after him.

I was wondering, since my temperament was super calm (and it turns out my SO) was the same, could this mean that our baby would also be like us? Or is there no real connection?

I’m wondering what your experience was and if it matched?

Noooooooooo 😂

I was an absolutely horrible baby who screamed and never slept and was stubborn as a mule

My son is lovely and sleeps like a dream 👍

Ahhh that's so lucky!

Sucks that we can't pass on our 'calm baby' genes so to speak haha. I am sort of trying to learn more about babies and children before my partner and I really decide if we are ready.

I suppose I have to brace myself for this possibility! My nephew made me pretty scared about babies/toddlers who are difficult to console. I feel guilty saying it, but it almost scared me away from having kids for a while. But... people get through it right?

Haha! Oh bless you, it’s a huuuuge decision right!

You will be fine, I promise. If it was really that bad, people would never have more than one, and they do!

From my experience at work (childcare, hundreds of babies over the years) and having my own, honestly no two are the same. I thought I knew it all but my son sure showed me different 😂

My husband and I were both very easy babies and have both turned into pretty straightforward adults. I’m calm and organised and my husband is so laid back it’s amazing he doesn’t fall over.

We have a 21 week old who we love so dearly, but has pushed us to the limits. He’s fractious, hyperactive, emotional and generally what would be described as a ‘high needs, difficult baby’. So sadly no, I don’t think parental temperament either during infancy or adulthood plays a roll x

In answer to your second post, yes you do get through it. For me it’s taken antidepressants and the decision to never have another baby, but we’re surviving and I’m almost..,almost enjoying him now in his brief spells of cheeriness. Don’t want to be a Debbie downer but I think you’re very wise really considering how you’d cope with a difficult baby, having seen your nephew. I had no clue a baby could be so Extra

My Mum insists my daughter is a clone of me as a baby - both in looks and temperament

No, I was calm and placid. DS was a very high needs baby and now toddler!