hi everyone,
really not sure where to start, my daughter is in year 9 and she had always been so well behaved in primary school and things, but since starting secondary shes fallen in with the wrong crowd and sadly shes started to become more and more out of control, and now ive got a letter informing me that shes been permanently excluded from school. im beside myself in tears and feeling as if ive failed as a parent - i had NO idea things would get this bad.
shes always been a little cheeky but since secondary its got worse and worse. when she was year 7 and 8 i used to get phone calls all the time about her chatting too much or showing attitude to staff, and i just thought she would grow out of it. now shes in year 9 she seems to be in with the completely wrong crowd, a group of really badly behaved girls who i really want her to stop hanging around with, but she just wont.
last week there was an incident where she was absent from her maths lesson, and a member of support staff saw a group of three girls, including my daughter, behaving very strangely in the corridor outside of the girls toilets. the member of support staff asked if the girls were okay and asked why they werent in their lessons, and she noticed my daughter shove something quickly into her bag and act really nervous and strange. the support staff member asked her what she had just hidden in her bag, and after a big argument and a lot of shouting, the support staff member has to get other staff members and the head involved, and they eventually find that she had a small bag of white powder which they believed to be drugs.
school has phoned the police and taken the girls to be checked by the school nurse. next thing i know i get a phone call to come in at once about an urgent incident regarding my daughter, and when i arrive at the school i see my daughter sitting in the nurses room with a police officer and the headteacher explaining to me whats gone on. theyd tested the substance and found it to be ketamine, an illegal drug. nurse had checked her over and found her to be alright, and police interviewed her in my presence and decided not to take it further, thankfully - that really would have been a real real nightmare. obviously with the police turning up to the school has created a massive scene and drama, and made me feel really really ashamed and embarrassed for my daughter
needless to say i had to take her home from school at once and she wasnt allowed in "until further notice," and ive now received a letter from the school informing me that she is permanently excldued and will need to continue her education in the pupil referral unit.
i had no idea my daughter was using drugs at all and she will NOT talk to me or tell me where she got them from or whether shes done this before. im beside myself in tears just thinking about it, and the worst thing is she does not even seem to care at all. ive searched her entire room and not found anything, and i just know that its due to her friendship group with this really awful group of girls is the reason that she has got into this. and now its got her kicked out of school
sorry to ramble, but please please help. i just want my daughter to behave properly again and stop mixing with the wrong crowd. im worried about her future and im at a loss about where to go from here.
thank you