8 year old responsibility and respect for things.

[1Pinkfluffyelephant]

How can we teach DD who is 8 to take a bit more responsibility for her things and have a bit more respect for her stuff.
A few examples for context:

She takes clothes off and just leaves them on her floor or I give her a pile of clean clothes and ask her to put them away and I find them stuffed in her wardrobe, then moans that she can’t find anything to wear 🤨.

She will be reminded when getting ready for school that she needs to bring her water bottle and reading book downstairs to go in her bag and everyday she will go to walk out the door without either or her coat and bag (I have to remind her as we’re walking out the door otherwise she would get in the car without them).

She will do colouring before bed if she doesn’t feel like reading but ends up going over the edges and drawing on her bedding/carpet despite repeated conversations about leaning on something to avoid this happening.

She has her own bathroom and just doesn’t flush the toilet, leaves her sink filthy, uses up bubble bath and soap etc for potions then complains when she has no bubbles for her bath etc.

There are many other examples but it just seems like basic things that I would expect her to be able to do without constant reminders seem such hard work.
Am I expecting too much or are there things we can do to encourage her to do these things?

Am I expecting too much or are there things we can do to encourage her to do these things.

Sorry, I'd say that you are expecting way too much. You'll probably get a host of MNers appear who all tell you that their little Darlings were all fitting this in between learning Mandarin and mucking out the pony though.

Thanks for your reply. It’s hard to tell as she is generally quite sensible, fantastic with her baby brother, offers to help out around the house etc but things I think I thought she should be doing she doesn’t.
I think it stemmed from her teacher making a comment to another child about it being their own responsibility to remember their homework book/reading book/diary each day and not their mums fault it was left at home. Which made me think it was generally expected at this age to be able to remember to pack their bag and pick it up on the way out.
Maybe I am just expecting too much and so is the teacher?!

@JiltedJohnsJulie
Their little Darlings were all fitting this in between learning Mandarin and mucking out the pony though this made me chuckle

You could be describing my 7.5 year old DD. EXACTLY the same!!