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should I put near 3 year old in a bed?

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furrycat · 18/10/2007 16:11

He's 2.10 now, small for his age (so hasn't outgrown his cot) and has never attempted to climb out...I was thinking it was time developmentally to put him in a toddler bed but then I thought, why make life hard for myself? He's quite happy in his cot....is it wrong to leave him in it for a few more months?

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omeN666 · 18/10/2007 16:14

Leave him as long as you are happy. So far ds and dd1 moved at 12mths due to not staying in the cot, think dd2 will last longer but only because she is smaller

mumfor1standfinaltime · 18/10/2007 16:14

I don't think it is 'wrong' to leave him in his cot. If he is still napping in the day it can be useful to have a cot.

I moved ds (2.5)out of a cot a couple of months ago into a single bed, but he is big for his age (same height as my 4 yr old Nephew!) and was in need of the space and was trying to tip cot over! Only thing we struggled with was keeping him in bed when putting him to bed, but after a few weeks he got the message and now stays in bed most nights.

Meeely2 · 18/10/2007 16:15

we moved our twins at 23 months - a few nights of climbing out every 5 mins, but they are fine now (2.10).

fingerwoman · 18/10/2007 16:16

if he is happy in the cot, and it suits you then leave him in there.
much easier all round

Tatat · 19/10/2007 07:30

My ds is also 2.10 (snap!) and we've only just moved him into a bbb -big boy bed - he would still have been in a cot too if he hadn't worked out how to climb out. I agree with you, no hurry to move to a proper bed if a cot is still meeting his/your needs.

terramum · 19/10/2007 08:47

What specifically makes you feel this is the time for moving him?

meemar · 19/10/2007 08:51

Not wrong at all - do whatever makes you all happy and suits your arrangements.

We had the other problem - DS2 was getting too big for his cot at 18months and went into a big bed!

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furrycat · 19/10/2007 10:00

Terramum - it's just that everyone else his age has been in a bed for a while and I worry that I'm still treating him like a baby when he's nearly 3...

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mustsleep · 19/10/2007 10:09

dd has just gone two and we tried her in a bed when she was 18 months but only because she kept trying tp climb out of the cot

anyway she flipped out refused to go anywhere near it - we tried again when she was 2o mnths and she just slept in it no probs

wy dont you if you have the room get a little toddler bed an just see if he will sleep in it - he might just take straight to it - if not if you keep the cot up you can still put him in that

MrsArchieTheInventor · 19/10/2007 10:14

DS had his own bed when he was 19 months old but that was more due to personal circumstances than personal choice. He was fine with a bed guard and a mound of teddies at the bottom of his bed to keep him company.

If he's happy in his cot then I'd say leave him be for a while. It sounds twee to say it but I guess he'll tell you when he's ready to move into a 'big boy bed'.

TheDuchessOfCorpseBride · 19/10/2007 10:31

If he's happy furrycat, I'd leave him where he is. My DD1 was 3 and DS1 3.5 when they moved into full size single beds (with rails). My youngest was in a bed at about 2.5yrs but that's mostly because she wanted to be like her siblings (who dragged her out of the cot every morning anyway).

But you could start talking to him about it - maybe with a view to buying something in the January sales if you haven't already bought one.

gegs73 · 19/10/2007 10:39

We moved DS1 when he was just over 3 as I thought it was time for him to come out and it killed my back lifting him out! He was very happy in there though, never climbed out or moaned and wanted his bars back when we took them down He was fine after a couple of nights and it just adds to his big boy persona which he seems to like at the mo. However if your ds is happy and you are too, I'd leave him in.

moljam · 19/10/2007 10:43

we keep being told ds shouldnt still be in a cot-hes 22 months,but hes happy,im happy blah blah blah.my dd went into a bed at 1 and half due to ds moving out of moses basket and needing cot-she loved it.ds1 was about same due to circumstances.

terramum · 19/10/2007 12:10

Forget about what everyone else is doing....do what you & your DS want to do. I personally think they are still babies at 3 years old...they still need their mum for so much at this age...it's just that they seem much more grown these days as most attend nursery.

My own DS started climbing out of his cot when he was nearly 3, but he didn't want to move to a proper bed yet, so I just left the side down overnight to allow him to climb in & out safely. Eventually he started asking to sleep in the bed so we started using it...but I would have been happy for him to carry on using the cot for as long as he needed to.

Your DS will soon tell you if he doesn't like the way you treat him - mine has started saying things like "No, let me do it!" when I go to put his socks or pants on etc...no need to worry at all

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