Hello! I wonder if anyone has any advice on this, or has experienced similar.
My 4 1/2 year old boy (one of twins) rarely tells me if he is hurt or if something is wrong. This has been happening for at least a year. If he falls over, rather than coming to me for a cuddle, he will push me away, and when I ask if he's hurt he will shout "won't tell you" or "don't want to say" or "don't ask". He gets very angry and if I try to ask again it will quickly escalate into an enormous tantrum. I try to explain why it is important for me to know if something is ever wrong, but there's no reasoning.
Today his teacher told me that she had seen a boy push him and he looked like he was going to cry, but she wouldn't tell him if he was OK either. When I tried to talk to him about it later, again, it turned into an hour or shouting at me, throwing things, and tears.
I'd hate to think something would ever happen and he wouldn't feel he could tell me and I worry that if he is ever hurt or feeling ill I won't know.
Any advice much appreciated. I have found nothing on Google!
Thank you!