Hi all
I have done a few searches and it seems that this age could be tricky with boys but things have suddenly got out of hand and I’m worried that this is more than just developmental.
Ds just turned 9. He is one of 3 boys. We always thought he had traits of slightly being on the spectrum mainly due to his social skills and issues with self control and regulating his emotions but the last 2 years he has seemed better.
As he went back to school after lockdown I knew it might be a bit difficult after such a long time, new teacher etc but had a call at the end of the week it was a follow up from a few weeks ago.
He started messing around similar things as he does at home. Eg when he is asked to stop something he wants to have the last word and I’ll be in control and when it doesn’t work out, he will sulk and won’t do as he is asked.
This last few days I was told he got out of control when things hadn’t got his way and just exploded. Kicked things and was rude to a teacher.
He is the same at home if he doesn’t get his way he will absolutely fly off the handle and will even be physical and insult me and his dad.
I would almost as far as he seems possessed and I don’t recognise him during these fits.
I have mental health issues ran in my family (including suicide) and so I can’t help but worry what if this is the beginning of something more serious.
His school promised he will be able to see a support worker and talk about coping strategies however they say at the minute he just seems like he is simply naughty and doesn’t seem like he is struggling otherwise.
We now have a reward chart in place. His chosen reward is PS4 time which they can only have at the weekend but the problem I find is also surrounding waiting and being asked to come off it when he explodes so I feel it would be easier if I just banned it full stop but it’s not fair on his brothers just because he can’t deal with it...
Sorry for rambling on but just feel a bit lost