Hi - I have 2 DD's one is 2.9yr and the other is 10 weeks. Since DD2 arrived DD1's behaviour has gone down hill - even yesterday her childminder said she was glad to see me .
We thought we'd done a lot to prepare DD1 for the new arrival - read lots of books about mummy being pregnant, a new baby, being a big sister etc. we bought a present for DD1 from DD2 and other way round. We also got DD1 lots a doll set so that when mum was feeding, chaging, putting to sleep etc DD1 could do the same with her babies. How being a big sister is good.
We've kept her routine as much as possible - going to childminders 3 days per week. Individual time with mum and dad (try for at least 20mins per day), DP and I swap night about for doing her bath and putting to bed. I try at least twice per week to take her away out somewhere - park, far, shops etc.
She's a very independent girl (playgroup leaders commented on this 30min after her first session). So we try to let her make suitable decisons.
Some of the unacceptable behaviour she has been doing is hitting and scratching other kids, running away from me when out (so have invested in a wrist strap), screeching non-stop, crying for no apparant reason (last night it was because i was singing!), having to be told about 10 times to do something.
SHe's never been the best sleeper, however, when she moved to her big girls bed she never once woke up during the night. Now however, she's taken to waking at the back of 4am and it's a struggle to get her back to sleep. When she wakes she shouts for me - if i don't go into to her she then screams and will keep this up for 30min to an hour. If i go into her then she wants me to read a story, is hungry, thirsty, needs the toilet etc eventually i then leave and she screams.
She adores her new sister, gives her lots of cuddles and kisses (though i don't trust her enough to leave them alone for a second).
Anyway - please tell me it gets easier???sorry for long post but any advice would be gratefully appreciated!