3 year old won't sleep in room on her own

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Hi when my daughter was born we used to live in a crappy little flat where the neighbours were really noise with loud music and shouting and screaming till early hours of the mornings, we was there for 2 years then we moved to another flat but yet again not long after we moved in the neighbours were noise with banning, slamming doors , shouting and screaming all through the night to earlier hours of the morning and because of them I had to stay with my daughter in her room because she got woken up so scared that wouldn't go back to sleep unless I slept in there with her this again went on for another 2 years. My daughter is now 3 we have just currently moved to a nice little bungalow in the country side and there's no noise no nothing it's dead quite, but she still insist I sleep in her room with her. It's starting to take its toll on me now I really need a proper sleep in my own bed and I just can't get it. I have tried saying to her if she sleeps in her room all by herself then I will buy her something but nope it doesn't work I don't know what else to try. Has anyone got any advice or help please I really would appreciate it.

It’s so hard isn’t it. Mine goes to bed in her own room but then is in our bed most nights by morning and tbh we have just accepted it and we figure she won’t be doing that when she’s 16. We got ourselves a super king bed which really helps but I totally get what you mean about wanting your own bed. I don’t even notice most nights now when she creeps into our bed. I think if you really want her to sleep in her own bed you’re just gonna have to be firm but I wouldn’t just leave her there on her own as she’s clearly quite insecure and that’s going to make her more so. At bedtime went stay with our’s til she’s asleep but once lights are off it’s bedtime, there’s no more communication and if she gets out she is put straight back in and she knows this and we rarely get any fuss now but we did at the beginning. She needs to know you’re still there for her and looking after her but there’s nothing wrong with being firm and setting that expectation. We decided the overnight hijacks weren’t worth the battle though personally but it’s your bed and your choice. You may be in for a fight but shen WILL learn. Just don’t leave her on her own in there. You’ll create more problems than you solve. Good luck xx