Is this behaviour normal?

[hilda1]

My husband's 7 year old son takes toys away from our 1 year old boy and moves away from him when he tries to reach for them. I think it's not nice and he should know better at that age. My husband doesn't see an issue with it and doesn't think it's mean. I find it very difficult to watch and I have tried to ask him not to do it but he will just do it again five minutes later.

It's within the realms of normal for some kids. Not all. I think 7 is well old enough to understand why that's not good behaviour.

Jealousy is the only explanation.

I would be very, very firm with him. Don't ask him. Say "No! We don't do that!"

And tell your husband that he needs to be on your side or his son will think it's ok to do worse.

Equally, your stepson needs to be helped to understand that he's not less important than the baby. When your stepson acts nicely with your baby, HEAP praise on him. Give him way more praise than you might think is normal. Reward any good behaviour with the baby....

Thanks for the advise makes a lot of sense. Will try this approach. Just feel like I need to bring baby out of the room otherwise because I can't just sit there and let him do it.

It would be better to remove the older child. Not the baby.

Yes exactly I've said this ...he can play his own things in another room but never seems to happen so myself and baby play in elsewhere.

You need to talk to him. He may be jealous, or angry. In such situations, there is always a reason. The fact that the husband doesn't seem the problem isn't very good either. Try ta talk to your son together. The opinion of both parents will affect him.