In one of my parenting books, there was an epigraph before the first chapter that said.
" For the first two years, you will teach your child to walk and talk, and for the following ten to shut up and sit still"
Some kids are chatterboxes, some are extremely quiet.
DS2 lives in the fast lane. He didn't learn to walk, he learnt to run. Everything he does is rushed. When he comes down the stairs, the house shakes, when he opens the fridge, I can hear him from my bedroom, and he talks and talks and laughs all day long.
A primary teacher was annoyed by that. I told her about my brother in law. He is the slowest person I have ever met. He talks slowly, walks slowly, eats slowly, he never ever raises his voice, there is never a flick of excitement in him. He drives me nuts and sometimes, I have this urge to shake some life in him, but of course it would be unfair, this is who he is. In the same way you can make a slow person fast, you can't make a fast person slow. But you can teach them to control their voice, the way they speak
Did you @Heymambo ever tell her how you feel? Why is her chatting annoying you? IS it because you want to listen to something or do something else? Tell her that you need 15 min right now. What is she chatting about ?
We come in all shape and size, and not only on the outside. We have lived in Spain and Italy, and there a chatty and lively child is the norm. If you ever enter a busy restaurant in Italy, it is so loud. Everyone talks on top of each other and talk and talk. Everyone is so quiet in Australia where we live now.
Tell her you love her sparkle and enthusiasm, but that you are going to put some strategies in place to control them in some moments.
And the fidgeting, it is normal in certain persons.
My father is 82, and still never sit still. He will roll or fold a piece of paper, stand up during dinners, move on his chair, even while driving, he taps the steering wheel.
She chats with you. So many parents would envy you. See the bright side of having a chatty child. the question is " why is it annoying that much" ? Why are you feeling teary about it? If you need a bit of silence, just tell her so. Or tell her a story, so she has to listen without interrupting.
Oh and getting annoyed by our children is quite normal. I know I have 3 of them. Most things will solve themselves with time.