Is this normal?

[keziahthecat]

My daughter is 2.5 and her behaviour is so different to her older brother's I'm not sure if it's normal or a concern. She's really really ocd about things. So if we walk a different way to the shops to what she was expecting she will stop and have a tantrum until we walk the way she wants and if we don't she will scream and tantrum for about an hour before finally calming down. Her tantrums are now about every other day and they are so draining. It is always because she wasn't expecting something or it's different to what she wanted - eg daddy took her brother to school instead of me. She was fine the following day when this happened because I remembered to tell and prepare her. Yesterday it was because she wanted to walk through a puddle but we didn't have time to go back and she screamed for over an hour. Not really sure what I can do to improve matters, just wondered if others had this and their children grew out of it? She is a very strong minded, stubborn child but also bright and well ahead verbally and physically.

I have a similar 2.5 year old DD2, whose behaviour is very different to her older sibling as well. When she tantrums they are epic, at least 40 minutes of all out screaming. She really likes routine and predictable things and also gets very fixed ideas about who does what. She will often refuse to let someone do something until its the "right" person e.g. last night my DH picked her up out of the bath and she went totally crazy, had to climb back in and then I had to lift her out before she was calm. If its a smallish thing I try to let her have her way most of the time, but sometimes we have a stand-off and a tantrum nearly always follows. Preparing her and talking a lot before and after new routines seems to help e.g. we read loads of books about nursery before she started last month, we read loads of books about sleeping in a big bed when we moved her into one.

I was actually just about to come on and post asking whether it was normal to want to hear the same bedtime story every night. I have had to tell the same story on repeat for weeks and weeks now, its so boring but DD2 always asks for it

My daughter is 4 and is the same, I don't know if it's a concern or not but I'm hoping and praying she will grow out of it. It's worse when she's tired and she's always tired so it's a barrel of laughs. She went mad the other week as I wouldn't let her tread on every single drain in the street, I had to drag her home kicking and screaming and she is half the size of me now. It's so draining you have my sympathy can't wait for her to move out