Attitude

[Gem128]

Hey everyone
A little advice/help.. my daughter is in the terrible twos well think she started that half way through being one but now she has the attitude. She is also a mad hatter with a lot of energy and pushes my buttons a hell of a lot. Love her with all my heart as a mother should and would do anything for her but being a single mum getting woken up at 5/5.30 with a toddler every day with a naughty streak and so much energy you tend to lose your rag and your knackered. Just wondering if there is anyway of telling a 2 year old off and them actually being aware they are in the wrong without them laughing at you. Man wish Jo Frost was about (Super nanny) to give me some advice.
Wouldn't change her my daughters personality in the slightest as she is fun, happy and so cheeky but she is hard work and her strops etc can be quite challenging. I know a lot of mums are in the same situation just wouldn't mind some words of encouragement and advice on how to actually get her to realise that mummy is serious sometimes and to listen but then I also know she is only two. Sorry for the rant just I'm shattered and wouldn't mind a little bit of a break lol
Have a good day

I know it's easier said than done but I'm starting to realise that just not rising to the behaviour you don't like is the best way of dealing with it but also acknowledging their feelings. My 2YO whinges a lot more than tantruming and is very stubborn at times too. The whinging I just acknowlege that she's upset and I really want to help her but she's whinging and I can't understand that so can she use her grown up voice please. Often she will then at least try to articulate what she wants in a more sensible voice. The stubborness I mostly just ignore and push through and I've modified my language a bit to show her that in some cases she just has to do as I say eg I don't say 'shall we go get dressed now so we can go to the park' I say 'time to get dressed now so we can have fun at the park' and I give her a few minutes to get herself dressed but if she's dicking about I just wrestle her into them after fair warning lol. It's a tough age and they're all different. I'd almost rather mine tantrumed as I feel I could handle that better than the low level defiance but I think the trick is with either just to stay calm and not get emotional back and not allow them to acheive anything through the undesired behaviour and eventually they'll get tired of doing it. Good luck. I'm told it gets better.... after threenagers and fascist 4's that is... xx

PS if she's full of energy TIRE HER OUT. Mine is very active and we barely go a day without going to the park or somewhere. She has a balance bike too which when she isn't being stubborn about riding it is really good exercise. It's the only way. I think it's quite rare for toddlers not to have bags of energy tbh