Dealing with neighbours naughty boys

[EdnaGold]

This is a bit lame but....

I've got two little girls who are, largely, well behaved. One is 6 and the other is 4. They're both quite shy and never rude to other adults, though obvs they can be rude to us.

Our neighbours have two boys of 6 and 8 and because I have well behaved girls I just DONT know how to deal with mouthy, rude boys and precocious boys.

They play in their garden a lot without their parents outside which is obvs fine. But...they often shout slightly rude things over the hedge at the girls, a few times they've thrown things over, today they were jumping up and down on their trampoline chanting "Phoebe sucks" at my little one which upset her. I just never, ever know what to say back to them. They seem to have endless confidence in being just outright rude to us and our girls. I pretty much ignore them and pretend they haven't spoken.

I absolutely LAST resort do not want to have to raise it with their parents because I just think it makes us look really pathetic. I am sure that looking after 2 boys is knackering and I don't want to look lame like I can't handle a 6 year old being rude.

But parents of boisterous young boys...what DO you say to shut them up? What would even make them respect or fear us?

You haven't endeared yourself here at all, I only know how to deal with well behaved GIRLS

BOYS can be well behaved too, shock horror.

To answer your actual dilemma, I think you're doing the right thing by ignoring them. They are looking for a reaction, and they'll get bored.

Wow....i forgot how aggressive the internet is.

I obviously at no point was referring to all and every single boy. Just particularly the boys we live next door to.

Oh my god honestly would you speak to someone face to face like that. I've literally caveated it at start and end saying it was lame.

Just FYI both my daughter's best friends are boys. You've got utterly distracted by thinking this was a criticism of all boys when it totally isn't.

Read your post back "...because I have well-behaved girls I don't know how to deal with rude boys". You could've easily used the word "children", although you'd still have sounded judgey, at least you would've seemed like less of a complete stereotyper.

You've got anger issues. Maybe try to deal with what someone is posting originally, and not just dragging your own insecurities on here

I did - I answered your original post in my first post.

Yeah, no, it was really badly worded. The "well-behaved girls" vs the "mouthy, rude, precocious boys". You might not have meant it like that, but it definitely reads as if you think boys need to be handled differently to girls because they're inherently more unpleasant.

Also "I'm sure that looking after two boys is knackering". It's just like looking after two children. As a mother of two boys this attitude really gets my back up.

Your neighbours' children sound quite normal to me.

Phoebe needs to man up!

Grow a pair and talk to their parents.

Or carry on attacking people on the internet.

FWIW, it doesn't matter whether any of the children in the story are male, or female, or blinking goats. They're being rude but what would you say to your own child if this was them?

I'd be saying, over the fence, that they were being rude and it's not appreciated. Then the next time, go and speak to their parents, who are quite possibly oblivious