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[Purpleburple123]

My son is 10 months and I've ebf him. Currently has a breast feed when he wakes, mid morning, mid afternoon and before bed. He is having three meals a day. Just wondering if I should cut his breast feeds down to two times a day as this is what the health visitor advised he should be on by now.
He's very fussy with meal times and sometimes will only eat some spoonfuls of a purée meal or cereal and crisps, baby biscuits and fruit/some vegetables which he loves to eat with his hands. He keeps wanting to grab the spoon to feed himself so a lot of food ends up everywhere and it's hard to tell how much he wars. I know he should be eating more textures and solids buts he's always been fussy.
I'm worried about changing things as he's sleeping well (finally!!) and not wanting to feed at night.
What were/are your babies eating at 10 months?

I would be weaning him off baby crisps and baby biscuit before reducing his feeds. He doesn't need those, they are nutritionally void and will develop a preference for ultra-processed food and become even more fussy.
Use a baby fork for a better control and he can have some pieces of fish, a soft omelette, baby pasta, and so on.

@LeGrandBleu

I would be weaning him off baby crisps and baby biscuit before reducing his feeds. He doesn't need those, they are nutritionally void and will develop a preference for ultra-processed food and become even more fussy. Use a baby fork for a better control and he can have some pieces of fish, a soft omelette, baby pasta, and so on.

Thank you. Yes I am concerned about the baby crisps etc and have tried many cooked foods with him e.g eggy bread, omelette, pancakes, sandwiches etc but he tends to take a couple of bites and then discard. Is baby pasta a particular pasta shape? When I've tried whole food like pasta twists he will refuse but will sometimes take the meal as a puree. He's now pretty much refusing yogurt which he always loved at around 7/8 months. It gets you down each day as my husband and I love food and cooking and it feels like a real struggle. I'm never sure if I should keep offering him alternatives when he doesn't eat much e.g for breakfast I can do eggy bread, then try weatabix, porridge and finally fresh fruit which I know he will eat. Sometimes he does eat the porridge, weatabix but other times not. I suppose I'm wondering if this is normal and whether I should stop worrying or if it's because he's so full from milk that he's not really hungry? I always leave an hour/hour and a half after milk feed for solids.

My DD is the same age and has the same number of breastfeeds. Until last week she was still feeding to sleep so we tend to have milk after meals (obviously except the wake up and bedtime feeds). Maybe it’s worth leaving a bit more of a gap?

We do BLW because she’s a spoon refuser and she doesn’t do very well with eggy/bread based foods either (think it’s because of lack of teeth!). Pasta is ok and she does well with macaroni because it’s mushy and easy to hold. You could maybe make the main focus of his meals fruit and veg if he will eat that, and just give him tastes of other stuff. I would focus on what he will eat rather than what he won’t, could be as well the huge variety at each meal is a bit confusing.

They say it takes them up to 10 tries to get used to different foods to try not to worry, sounds like he’s just taking it at his own pace I know exactly how you feel about it getting you down though, seeing them reject something you’ve put effort into making is soul destroying!

At 10 months my DS was nursing 4 times a day and eating breakfast, lunch and dinner ! He ate the same meals as I did ( minus the sneaky treat )!

Remember: Food before one is just for fun !!!

I think the expression food before one is just for fun to exist only on MN whereas the science warns about a tiny window of opportunity in which you can shape the tastes and preferences for your child.
@Purpleburple123 you like food and cooking which is a blessing . Do not offer half your fridge or pantry when he refuses a food, especially not something sweet (even a fruit) or processed (pseudo healthy baby junk) .
Have him next to you while you prepare his meal, sitting in his high chair, watching you chopping an onion and carrots, listening to the sizzling when you drop it in a pan with a bit of oil, and smell the pieces of chicken you add to id before pouring a ladle of broth which will help make the chicken dish wet with the sauce. It will be solid enough to be stabbed with a baby fork and you can have a bit of rice with it and use the meat sauce to moist it.
Eating involves all senses. Use them. Have him sit with you as you are all having family meals.
Baby pasta is real pasta in a smaller shape, like this one www.amazon.co.uk/Barilla-Piccolini-Mini-Penne-Rigate/dp/B003UM6EMI?tag=mumsnetforu03-21 or
www.amazon.co.uk/Cecco-Conchigliette-Piccole-Rigate-n-53/dp/B003UMI7R8/ref=pd_sbs_325_7?psc=1&pf_rd_p=b9bf232d-9a8a-4c7d-aa9d-641c0995d3a2&_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_wg=gHaKQ&pf_rd_r=A3DGKFGQXN22BPQ92BSY&pd_rd_i=B003UMI7R8&pd_rd_w=7UQYv&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&refRID=A3DGKFGQXN22BPQ92BSY&pd_rd_r=6a8287f4-2942-49bc-92c6-cf1229894a88

Does he ask for the mid morning breast or do you offer? Maybe bring his lunch forward around 11.45.

Widen his taste, and if he refuse braised carrot offer tomatoes cut into cubes with a dash olive oil, let it sweat or 10 min, and add a sprinkle of chopped parsley or basil.