Help! Any advice welcome

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Help please! Any suggestions welcome...dd in year 3 finding really hard to find someone to play with in her break time in school...I’ve tried having a few of her class mates at ours for play dates and and even socialise with some of the mums occasionally...when a child comes to ours for a play date with dd the girls have a lot of fun but the same girl would then refuse to include my dd in their groups at school in play time and make up some excuse about how she can’t play with dd in school and go off and play with her other friends and ignore dd...we are trying and I know dd is trying as well but nothing seems to work and I’m feeling so miserable...dd is tough and won’t say much to me but I know she is lonely...otherwise dd is doing so well academically in school and doing very well, infact better than most of her peers in her school work...does it get better or only worse?! 😔😔😔

We have moved countries many times for my DH's job so the finding new friends is something that resonates.
I used to add to the lunchbox some extra snacks, whatever you school will allow, buy a couple more. Lollies, chocolate buttons, all things that go against everything I believe in nutrition but it helped with the boys.French baking and Italian focaccias helped a lot. For DD, I tried to find out what the cool stuff was, from small gadgets that are sold at newsagents, collectable and stuff.
Girls are harder because they are smarter.

Can't you ask the other mums to ask discreetly their DDs about what is going on? In the playground and classroom as well.
I feel for you and your DD.

Thank u LeGrandBleu for your kind advice and tips...will try this out 😀 I’m just shocked how mean 7 year olds can be 😔 guess the important thing is that she is safe and comes back to a happy home...but thanks again for your kind response...hope all went ok with your kids and they’re doing well and enjoying school now...stay safe xx

Don't worry, socialization is a difficult thing at any age. Especially, they are children, they are changeable in behavior and in what they like or what they don't like. For children common interests are important. Talk to your daughter, maybe she has some problems or it's OK for her. My older son was lonely but it was just because he doesn't like games other children were playing. It changed when we moved. Now you have to talk with your child and trust her. Everything will be fine.