Hi, my little girl turned 18 months last weekend.
She is developmentally fine - motor skills, movement, communication, all on track. She's also funny and cheerful, but her temper is something else.
I know all toddlers can have a temper. But the lead at the daycare said she's got a stubborness to her anger that she's never seen in 23 years on the job. She also said that we could let this turn into a weakness or encourage it into a great positive. She called her a 'warrior' - which despite the difficulties I really liked to be honest.
Her older sister, now 6, had a temper too but could be distracted / got over it quickly enough. The toddler is too focused for that - she can eventually be distracted but is able to hold focus on her issue for a long time - if she's not allowed to do something she'll still be pointing or running back to that room 15 minutes later.
She doesn't really get 'sad' either - even if she falls over she's more likely to pick up the thing she tripped on, shout at it and throw it than cry (unless she really bumps herself.) The daycare lead said if the adult she's currently playing with moves away, she never cries, just gets angry at them.
It's exhausting - we can't let her cry out a tantrum, because she doesn't give up. It's not all the time - she's a happy and hilarious kid, but once she starts she won't let go.
She tries to communicate a lot, I think it frustrates her that she's not more verbal (she's being raised bilingual and apparently that delays language slightly while they do the extra 'sorting' in their head.) She can say 'No', 'Stop' etc. - I think she's pissed off when we don't understand the rest of her babble.
Anyone else had such a.. tempestuous toddler.. and has any tips?
I don't want her to lose that inner fire, I just want her to have a little control over it, if that makes sense...