Recently we moved from a 1 bedroom flat to a shared house.We are a couple and a 3 years young will call him A. We share with another family of 3 couple and a 9 years old... will call him D .... When we arrived all was well but after a few days of living here D started telling off my child copying me and that resulted in A starting to feel stressed and started having tantrums when D was trying to approach him. Because of the age difference and they don't have any siblings they haven't really connected properly.... But the worst bit is that I've seen D once when A stretched for a biscuit pushing the bag away so A couldn't reach for it... This one got upset and the second I said he could have one I wanted to take the biscuit bag an D grabbed just before me... So A got even more upset thinking that he s going to take it away and started a big tantrum.
D' mum told me that I should tell him off that she doesn't care.... But just by saying that it gives me the impression that she doesn't give a flow and it doesn't feel right for me to do that. More she is expecting another one so I m assuming it's in her interest to start teaching the older one how to behave with a baby or a toddler.
A is got to the point where as soon as D is getting closer to him starts to cry and has a melt down... Just thinking what I could do.... I don't want to punish A for misbehaving and having a tantrum but if he's been bullied and the other one's mum hasn't noticed what happened... By the time we turn around D looks like he's trying to help... Or lately what he does is telling him that he cannot do that or the other one.... In the garden wich is supposed to be for playing... And these a 3 and half years... They need to explore and talked and told everything.... I told D few times that he needs to talk to A but he's not keen in listening.... I started follow A thru the garden when D comes out and now what he does is just telling him that he can't do something and send him to me... I feel really bad and I don't want my son to be around such caracter.... I think we need to move on our own again...but with the things being the way they are will need some time... Any thoughts?