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3 year old strange behaviour after going to toilet

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Sockmonster23 · 24/09/2020 14:36

This is strange and never seen it with my 2 other kiddo. He is potty trained but not that long really, he is really good for going to the toilet either his potty which I keep downstairs and The main one upstairs, he doesn’t want me in the room when he goes to the toilet though. His brother is 4 and ASD and they fight who goes first , can be hard work but we sort it out. lately he goes ballistic and I mean a total meltdown because I take his ‘poo upstairs and flush it ! He screams he wants his poo back and wants to flush it but even when he flushes it he Still wanted the poo back in is potty downstairs. His speech is good, lately too he demands to dress himself, and also we have a sofa bed and sometimes I use it and he always screams he wants to do it himself and he has to do it himself even though I help as it can be difficult. He is almost too independent if that makes sense but this only started lately. He is 4 next summer. I live apart from his dad and he started doing overnights all weekend last months and screams when he comes back that he wants his dad, misses Him and hates me! Doesn’t love me.. we didn’t have this before. After a couple of hours he is fine and back to love you mummy.

The toilet thing is really distressing him. He went mad at my mum when she took the potty upstairs as he wanted me to do it but i was having out at the time but not for long. He also went mad when he couldn’t flush one morning, he kept doing it I said stop , you will break the toilet. Any suggestions? I don’t have any other issues because he is generally really good and never had any problems with him it’s just the toilet thing and when he comes back from his dad.

Thanks

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jessstan2 · 24/09/2020 14:49

He's nearly four and it's about time he used the toilet exclusively and put the potty away. He obviously wants privacy in the toilet and that isn't unreasonable.

Perhaps his dad just lets him go on his own whenever he wants to and doesn't make a thing out of it.

If you do have to flush the loo after him, make sure the lid is down, in fact ask him to put the lid down after trying to flush and tell him he will get the hang of it soon.

Sockmonster23 · 24/09/2020 15:27

You have misunderstood me completely ! I don’t make a thing about it firstly and never have. Secondly he isn’t nearly 4 at all, he will be 4 next summer. It’s something that started recently about the tantrums after he has gone in the potty , he wants the poo to stay in the potty. Also no idea about his dad as far as I know from my eldest he also does similar there with the poo thing but he hasn’t been going that long over weekends..

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