Seperation Anxiety 2.4

[mummy2aaron]

Please help dd is 2.4 and has terrible seperation anxiety. I can't leave even the room with her howling, i feel suffocated. What can I do - there is no one she will be left with even dh can't stand the screams. She even comes into my bed and dh has to sleep in another room or no one would get any sleep - she really screams at the top of her voice for hours until she is exhausted. I know she shouldnt come into my bed but i also have 2 boys as and one is autistic and he needs very little sleep as it is - if she were to wake him i would be up even earlier and the day already starts around 4am with him.

Sorry your post has not been answered yet,
I am bumping for someone who has experienced this to come help.

Is this a new development or has she always been like this?
Do you suspect why this is happening?

Sounds exhausting for you. My experience is not quite the same as I think ds1 was over it by about 18-20 months (can't quite remember, he's three and a half now so it feels like ancient history now). It WILL pass but in the meantime if you can bear to pander to it - keep her close, take her everywhere, smother her with love - perhaps she'll start to feel more secure/suffocated/smothered sooner?

Well she was always rather self sufficient, she has been like this for a few months now though. She has started Playgroup twice a week and is very happy there no crying for me or anything. Maybe it's just when the boys are here too.

My Mum says she would climb inside me if she could just to get closer. If she would stop screaming that would be a help lol. We even have dramatics for saying no when she wants a biscuit. She is also a late talker and is having speech therapy I donlt suppose this helps with her insecurity.

Thanks for your replies, good to know she isnt the only one like this.

I think the baby psychology goes something like:

"I want you, I need you, now, now, now now!"

if you can say back (a million times or so)

"I want you, I need you, now, now, now now TOO!"

on the million-and-oneth time your child will say:

"Oh good grief, give me some space, you're crowding me"...

speech IS a biggie - I found ds1 got a lot less likely to throw a wobbley once he could express himself.