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17 month old behaviour getting me down

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bookworm1982 · 19/08/2020 13:38

Hi there, I hope someone can help as I’m feeling really upset about this. Basically DS2 is nearly 17 months and his behaviour is just awful. He hits, throws things, and bites. Everyone keeps saying to me that he’s too young to understand what he’s doing, but I don’t believe it - I really think he does it to be mean. For example, he’ll run over to his older brother, who is 3, with the remote control and smash it hard over his head. When I take the remote out of his hand and shout no very loudly, he just laughs and then grabs two fists full of his brothers hair, almost as if to say ‘ha I can still do this!’ He thinks the words ‘no’ and ‘stop’ are hilarious - never once has he responded to them with anything other than a crazy laugh. I’m being told by friends that it’s obviously because he doesn’t understand no yet, but he understands loads so I can’t believe it’s that. It’s the fact that he seems so determined to hurt his brother that gets to me. And he’s like this all the time - there aren’t many moments when he’s gentle and loving. It makes me feel like such a bad mum because it makes me not like him sometimes. His older brother was always so gentle and well behaved.

So what I want to know is, does anyone else have a kid like this at that age and did it pass? If I know it’s going to pass then I can deal with it, it’s just the thought that it isn’t a phrase and he’s actually going to be a horrible little shit when he’s older that terrifies me!

Not sure if this makes any difference but he’s also a terrible sleeper.

Thanks all xx

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bookworm1982 · 19/08/2020 18:09

Anyone? :)

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takenbywine · 19/08/2020 21:23

I have a nearly 17 month old DS and what you have described is very similar. I don't know if he hits other children as he has no siblings but he is very boisterous and strong. He bites, hits and deliberately throws things by staring into my eyes as if he is saying, you can't stop me. He will bite me or hit me if I say no and he will throw a tantrum. My DS is also a terrible sleeper and very clingy at night which probably is the only time he shows affection. I'm interested in reading your thread as I also want to know if this will pass.

bookworm1982 · 19/08/2020 21:23

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bookworm1982 · 19/08/2020 21:25

Thanks for your reply takenbywine. Frustrating isn't it Sad

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