4 month sleep regression

[user882847759]

I think it has hit!

I am so stressed and feel so guilty for feeling this way.

My DC sleeps ok most nights, it's during the day.

It can take up to maybe 60 mins to get him to stop screaming and settle, after which he can wake up 2/3 times and need settled again (even if only 15 min nap)

Every timeI put him down he screams and is wide awake, then the process starts all over again. Can be up to 8 times a day. Life feels impossible sometimes.

I just really feel at the end of my tether today. Dp is still not back from work as done overtime today and I was so looking forward to getting 10 mins to myself when he got home 😢

Feeling sorry for myself and wanted to offload.

Any tips for the regression are most welcome

Hey, it’s so tough isn’t it, especially when you feel like it’s all on you. 4 months is such a tricky time they are going through real changes in their sleep which throw up all sorts of issues. My second little one 3-5 months was particularly horrendous (now 13 months)
What naps are you doing? Did they usually go to sleep no problem before? Usually in this regression they tend to look for what’s been putting them to sleep everytime they get through a cycle. Check the timings too just in case that’s where resistance is come ing from. I’m sorry it’s so tough I promise you will get through it x

Thank you so much for your reply!

He will sleep from around 11pm to 6amand sometimes longer.

Naps are usually around 6 times a day and can be anywhere between 15 mins and a couple of hours.

I usually rock him to sleep for naps or he is in his buggy, at night time he will be rocked with white noise or I will bounce on my ball with him in my arms, but has fallen asleep himself a couple of times.

So he is looking to be rocked each time a sleep cycle ends which is why he gets so upset?

He is such an amazing boy I just feel hopeless like I can't do it right as I can't get him to settle.

Even just understanding it a bit better has helped a little, thanks again 😊

Yeah so around 4 months babies start cycling between deep and light sleep a lot more, instead of as a newborn just sleeping like a baby! So they tend to wake more frequently; it’s very normal though so don’t worry about that. But it’s tough when you’re in it.
Usually they look for that sleep association to get themselves back to sleep if they’ve woken- I used to rock my 2 as well: to be honest it’s about sticking it out short term with what you’re doing as they don’t just magically learn to fall asleep by themselves at this age. Eventually you may be able to rock initially and pop Him down drowsy and he may do the rest, but don’t worry about that too much now.
With regards to naps generally at that age they can manage 1-1.5 hours awake so if up at 6am I would make sure they’re back down at 7.30 latest and then see how he goes. It’s really difficult with naps when they start doing 15 mins though! Just try and keep it consistent with what you’re doing leading up to the nap, quieter, slightly darker room (I know it’s hard when they’re downstairs with you) and just keep bedtime consistent too. It can be really tiring but you will learn to adapt etc xx