3 week old sleep pattern

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Ok here it goes. FTM and exhausted.
My baby literally doesn't sleep. She's been awake since 4 this afternoon and has not slept since now 9pm.
I managed to feed her at 8pm and she was floppy/sleepy so popped her to bed and she stayed asleep for 5 mins now screaming the house down.

I seem to have the same issue every night she's awake from 9pm until around 1am/2am as every time I put her down she just screams. I cannot get her to go down at nighttime.

I'm at my wits end with not getting sleep at night. I can cope with the night feeds no problem but it's getting her to sleep what on earth am I doing wrong ?

I get sleep anytime from about 2am until 7am if I'm very lucky.

Could be a million things. But there isn’t anything you are doing wrong. Could be day night confusion - that will correct itself probably at 6 weeks. Could be colic/reflux.

Blimey!

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time.

To be honest, it sounds like you may have unrealistic expectations of sleep patterns at this age. There is no routine and anyone who tells you otherwise is insane!!

Tiny babies like this can usually only stand about 30/45 mins of awake time before they need a nap - she sounds horribly overtired.

I’m not sure why you keep putting her down if you know it wakes her? Could you just hold her for a few naps to break the overtired cycle? Take it in turns with your partner so one of you can sleep?

What do you do to sooth her?

@Eggcellent29 I have no idea why she stays awake so long. She fights sleep so much.

I'd say we have some reflux issues which I'm trying to get advise and help for from HV but obviously things take time to work.

As for putting her down when your both so so tired at night I end up nodding off with her on me which seems far to dangerous so I put her down. Exactly the same for partner.

We have lovely cuddles in the day when she needs soothing to sleep but nighttime's a different ball game.

And I'm not complaining about the sleep pattern as waking for feeds is absolutely fine it's the initial getting her to bed that's the problem :(

My little one used to be like this, was very chill until 2.5/3wks. Then all of a sudden had this restlessness, crying... not really being sure what the issue was. I wondered colic so bought that Dentinox stuff and actually worked a treat... but was still fussy especially by the evening as she was so knackered from being awake most of the day (she's still like it now, I have a post up myself for advice.)
I did find white noise helped cause it sort of drowns out other noises... have you tried a dummy for comfort? If my little one does sleep in the day, It's usually in a bouncy chair with the vibrate on, a dummy, a comforter and white noise. More for the evening this but have you tried a nice bath, into some snuggly pjs followed by some milk in the evening in a dimmed quiet room? See if she will settle that way?

I used to have to walk around the house with the hoover on continuously just to get her to sleep!

@EGmummy I have just ordered some infocal to see if that helps. It's ment to help bring up wind as well as ease any colic.
I'm also going to phone doctor as want to rule out any GERD/reflux issues.

She adores a bath but literally hates getting out of it screams the house down 😂 she throws the dummy out her mouth typical 😩
She also loves her vibrated chair. She will sleep in that but again it's not safe if I'm asleep at night 🙈
Same as lying on my chest.
I just feel something is up and there's pain related there and it worry's me.

I'm also just so exhausted. It's tiring when there constantly unhappy :( & it most of all really upsets me.

Ahhh! My little one hated getting out the bath! That passes and they soon realise they'll be in snuggly pjs sooner than they think! So just ride that one out :)

I tried the infacol but it gave her more wind I found? But I know others swear by it! Hope it works for you. There's nothing more exhausting than an unsettled baby most of the time.

My girl kicked off royally tonight for 3 hours solid all because she was tired and doesn't nap. So I take my hat off to anyone who deals with crying like that every day. She was very unsettled at a few weeks old and I honestly don't know how I got through! Xx