Son demonstrating unsafe sexual behaviour

[Needinghelp24]

I'm really upset, scared and sick writing this so please be gentle.
I just walked in on my son on his bed with his bare bum in the air recording himself on his tablet. He went into a complete breakdown when I questioned what he was doing. Long story short there was a scuffle and I got the tablet off him. Turns out he was video chatting with an anonymous stranger on a site called Omegle. The user was telling him what to do, show them things, telling him what they want to do to him etc. My son was just answering and saying "your turn". You can imagine the depraved things I read.
My son says he hates me and never wants to talk to me again. He's gone to bed screaming and furious.
I'm in an awful state and I'm so shocked and sick.
He's only 9.

& in terms of counselling it all seems to be online and video chats which won't help at all

Im sorry that you had to walk in on that , BUT you are very right to be scared....
Who knows who is on the other end of this chat and exactly how old they are. (you dont mention if it mentions their age etc, but i only have to presume this is an adult... BUT this is a police matter, if it is an ault this is grooming and can lead to much worse... please seek help from them or even the nspcc , BUT someone and do it now!)

Im presuming you have taken the tablet or anything that has internet access / video/chat access off him?
Maybe once he has calmed down id try and sit with him, calmly, and reassuring him that your not upset with him...and try and find out who this person is, how long its been going on and if this is the first time.

Also this isnt his fault, but its not safe, and not a natural way to be sexual. I think its time to have an age appropriate sex talk.

You need to approach the police for advice, op. Call nsppc for advice first if that's a more comfortable call first.

You need to follow the proper advice when it comes to how to manage this with your little boy (, don't just take the technology away and that's sorted, you need to figure out why he's ended up in this position, do not let him have unsupervised access to internet devices etc)

@Needinghelp24 I agree, very non-confrontational way of talking. I'd say that you are not upset with him, that you are very scared that something bad will happen to him and that you want him to tell you how he feels and what is worrying him.

Can it be lack of money? No pocket money? A friend at school?

He is young but not too young to scare him properly. I would show him stories of boys being taken never to be seen again. Show him what could happen, he needs to be warned and ready so he cannot be manipulated again.

Hope you manage to get that sorted, sorry to hear it must have been pretty hard on both of you.

Contact CEOP
www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre/
They will advise both you and your son.

It's perhaps a good time to discuss why little kids should be supervised when online. Did you really just walk in, at 02:18, and find him on his tablet doing that?

9 year olds don't have the best decision making skills 🤔

Please get as much info as you can about whoever he was chatting with and report it to the police. There's no way they didn't realise he's just a child and that's seriously worrying. I wouldn't be too hard on him because he needs to feel understood and loved so he knows to come to you about these things but here should be strictly no unsupervised internet time and no access to sites/games in which strangers can chat to him. Definitely talk to him about keeping himself safe and if you think he can handle it show him some info or even documentaries about the high profile cases of children who were groomed and then came to harm eg Breck Bednar/Kayleigh heywood. He needs to feel understood and not judged by you but he needs to know how serious this is as well

OP I can only imagine what you're going through id want to kill the scumbag. I agree with earlier posts report it to the police this piece of shit is probably targeting other children.

Or get those peado hunters to track him down they'll do the police's job for them

You need to go to the police with all the information you have.