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Is my 4 year old pushing boundaries or is something wrong?

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Lostinagoodbook · 11/08/2020 21:44

Ok my little boys' behaviour has been worsening since xmas when he turned 4. I'm concerned he's not happy/ struggling a bit but maybe just pushing boundaries?

Basically talks constantly, at you about his current thing(sea animals atm). Doesn't like to stop and won't answer or reply to me about other stuff. Massive tantrums(physical at me) if I say no to things but contradicts himself and feel like he is looking for a reason to blow up iyswim? Not sleeping till 9/10pm for weeks at a time and says he can't stop thinking. He's in his room now talking to himself after a huge tantrum at 8pm over not getting to play longer.

Issues with creams/ clothing/heat/cold etc etc have always been there but worse since xmas ish time. Also have ongoing issues with him holding wee for hours and hours then getting emotional/tantrumming because he is so uncomfortable. When asked says he didn't need one. Occasionally says it's because he hates washing hands. He wont go in a paddling pool or play in water atm either.

Pre school say he is fine there??!! So if it's my parenting where am I going wrong? I use the book "how to talk so kids will listen" it sometimes works. Help!

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Lostinagoodbook · 12/08/2020 19:45

Any ideas?

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Overmylimit · 12/08/2020 22:22

No idea but in a similar situation with my 4 year old, I thought 3 was bad but this is something else. She won't respond to any discipline and every day it's getting worse.

Do you think they might be scared about starting school and it's coming out in this way? I'm not sure maybe clutching at straws but hoping it gets easier.

If your son is fine at preschool it seems like he is saving it all for you, much like my daughter does. The incessant talking is do draining and it's like they can't switch off?

Melmam · 13/08/2020 19:55

I'm the same really struggling with my 4year old son with not listen bad behaviour not responding to discipline I'm hoping it gets easier soon as I have a 3 year old who is starting to copy him!! Maybe it is the starting of school in September

Lostinagoodbook · 16/08/2020 19:26

Thankyou for replying ladies! I do hope that's true- I know he is s bit worried about it so sure it won't be helping. I think you must be right about the talking and not switching off @Overmylimit

I think I'll see how he is after starting school as I'm not happy about the aggressive behaviour at all :-( tried time outs which upsets him but if I try to hold him or move away he follows and tries to keep hitting:-0. Xxx

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