How do people find having one child?

[Jaim23]

I've always imagined having 2 children, but after having my son 6 month ago, I really don't think I want anymore. I didn't have a bad pregnancy although he was a month early. My 6 month old now sleeps through 12 hours and is a breeze most of the time. But,
I got really bad anxiety around 4 month old with little things he does and at the possibility of maybe him having a special need made me realise I didn't want the anxiety of all this again. I love my son he's amazing and I love being a mum but am I selfish for not wanting to have another child for him to grow up with?

You are not selfish no. Many of my friends who are only children are far more well adjusted than those with siblings and not everyone has a good relationship with their siblings anyway.

I find it hard but only as my DD is very much unable to play on her own and follows me around all day. I would have had another if I could! Your baby sounds like a dream though, mine was not

Thanks Louise, I guess just some reassurance is great, all my family have more than one and thinks its crazy I don't want more than one.

Hi over my limit, I'm so lucky to have a such a good baby, I know that. From all my nieces and nephews I've never known a baby like him. Maybe I'm just terrified as I know it would be very unlikely to have another baby who behaves the same haha. I don't know if he had been a little terror maybe I would want another 🤷‍♀️. Good luck with your little one maybe your second will be the angel haha. X

I also imagined having two children, maybe three but only had one. It has all been good so don't worry.

However your child is only six months old and, despite you having had an awful time, you may change your mind. Another pregnancy and birth may be a breeze.

(My decision was for different reasons, I had an easy time.)

For now, though, just enjoy the one you have. You can think about it all again in two or three years.

I agree with Jess you don't really need to give it much thought yet, your baby is still so young you can concentrate on enjoying him before putting any pressure on yourself 🙂

I have one, he is complex and amazing, and I love our triangle family. Have a look on the only child boards. I'm also an only and am very happy to be one.

Hi, I have a 9 month old and I feel he will be our only child too, for a number of reasons.

• I didn't have an enjoyable pregnancy, pre-natal depression and daily headaches ruined it for me, my son wasn't planned so it was an unexpected shock that took me a while to get used to.

• The birth was horrific, and I ended up needing an emergency c-section under general anaesthetic. Scariest experience of my life and one I don't want to risk repeating.

• I'm 33 now, I don't want a newborn with a toddler, and don't want to be pushing 40 and pregnant due to the higher risk of problems.

• Finances, speaks for itself really. Not just the cost of having another child but being on maternity leave was financially difficult for us and I don't think I could afford to do it again.

However I am totally in love with my son, he is amazing and I feel kinda bad for him that he won't grow up with a sibling to play with.

I have a sister, my husband is an only child, and the differences between our childhood experiences due to this are significant. However I'm hoping that we can be better parents....

The comments from people about only having one child, honestly I think people should kind their own business.