What do you do when your four year old misbehaves?

[Rainallnight]

My four year old DD is lovely and amazing, but can be strong willed and sometimes a bit hitty.

Just this week, she’s begun to give me an outright ‘no’, when I ask her to do something, and the usual strategies I’d use to manage this haven’t worked. For example, she snatched a toy from her little brother in a playground and then said ‘no’, and ran away from me when I told her we had to go.

And she’s hit her brother a number of times this week.

What would you do in these situations?

I feel like it’s an escalation in misbehaviour and I don’t quite have the tools to deal with it.

Thanks for reading.

At home I do naughty step, go back after four minutes and ask him to say sorry, if he doesn’t I keep repeating the process (this can go on for ages!).

He often runs away when I say it’s time to go at parks, I usually pretend to start leaving and wait till he runs over to me. Which he always does, he gets bored on his own. Removing a favourite toy or threatening no ice cream are other possibilities (you always have to follow through on this!). But it is hard.