5 year old wants to sleep in my bed

[GBKJ102218]

My daughter has always been a good sleeper but the past 3 weeks she has wanted to sleep in my bed. She will wake at the same time around 4 or 5 out of 7 nights a week and will ask to come into my bed to sleep. If I say no absolute chaos is created with loud crying and shouting constant 'I want to go in your bed!!!!' The first night she said she had a bad dream and I tried my hardest to heget her back to sleep in her bed. It happened but we both lost a lot of sleep. A few days later it happened again and after 45 minutes of me calmly explaining why we sleep in our own beds to her screaming I gave in and she slept in my bed. She went to sleep immediately and slept all night, even woke later than normal. I had to send my husband into her bed to sleep as there isnt enough space for us all. We all had a great night sleep. I understand that me doing this just once is probably the reason she wants this every night now, but we all need the sleep. I need to mention also that she has a baby sister who just turned 4 months who still sleeps next to me in her crib. I feel like my first probably just wants to sleep where we all sleep - and so would I if was her! But I try and try to explain it first and try to keep her in her own bed but when I have to wake for feeds I find myself not sleeping at all and it cant go on.

Any tips to encourage my daughter to stay in her room all night? Or shall i just carry on and keep the bed hopping until it fizzles out on it's own? I assume that when my 4 month old moves into her room that it may help. Also when my first returns to school normally in September?

Thanks... and please be nice, I'm just trying to make sure everyone has enough sleep!

Can you move the crib to a different location and put a mattress down next to your bed? If she wakes in the night she can sleep there. Difficult if you need to get up to tend to the 4 month old - you could put the mattress at the foot of the bed instead if there's room or further down the side of the bed so you've got a bit of room to put your feet down if you get up (would require no bedside table to give the most room)

For extra encouragement getting your daughter to choose to stay on her room all night you could make her have to get up if the four month old needs attention (especially if you'll need to step on the mattress to get out of bed), get her to help in some way like pass you a nappy if he needs changing.

Trying to be nice but got to ask why does she have to sleep in her own bed when baby gets to sleep in room with you? It's just natural a child wants to be with parents if scared at night. Can't you just let her in? This happens with us, if he's not getting back to sleep husband just goes to child's bed. I don't see the issue

Anyway yes to the bed hopping, just ride it out and enjoy they don't stay so little forever

Oh I dont have an issue with it. I love that I get these moments. But it is every night and I dont want to start a habit that i cant break. Although, it is reassuring that everyone is telling me to just go with it. I must say, it's much more peaceful without the hubby's snoring!! Haha. I'll enjoy it while it lasts. Thanks everyone.

No snoring from husband is also a bonus I enjoy, but mine hasn't come in the last 2 nights so perhaps it is ending