Possible autistic spectrum

[Elphaba75]

Hello everyone, my 9 1/2 DS has had lots of small behaviour issues,he’s very anxious (separation anxiety mainly) with no main trigger. He’s quite emotionally immature for his age. At school he’s not disruptive and follows the rules but he’s very insecure and needs lots of reassurance with his work,struggles with learning in general.(and easily forgets stuff he’s learnt) he’s not keen of any of it really.
He’d just started extra help in school then lockdown happened,homeschooling isn’t going well ! , he also is extremely picky with foods and won’t try new things.
We’re waiting for our assessment appointment to come but my current concern is ,I’m not sure whether this is behaviour associated with autism or ‘just bad behaviour’ my son is 9 1/2 and he has some signs which point to him being on the spectrum though we haven’t had our first appointment . He has times where he will just talk/chat / question and though he’s told sometimes to stop he will start talking again like he just can’t help himself.also like just now he’ll start making noise somehow and when asked he’ll just say that he wants too. Then he’s irritating his sister because he won’t be still /quiet/stop fidgeting.
This happens once or twice a day.
He doesn’t do repeated movements like I’ve seen in stimming.( he only does jumping around when he’s playing a computer game)
I’m torn between leaving him to get on with it if he is autistic and it’s what he needs , or whether I need to be stricter with him because he needs boundaries.
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Nobody on here can/should be giving an autism diagnosis on here. That's for specialists to do and even then it will take hours of in depth assessments. From what you've written though I think he'd benefit from gentle parenting either way as punishing is probably only going to make it worse. That doesn't mean letting him get away with things though. It just means finding ways to talk through his behaviour and come up with solutions and finding ways to push his boundaries in a supportive way. At the end of the day he is going to have to find his place in this world whether he has ASD or not and he'll still be the same child. Good luck x

I have a son with ASD and I would have to agree with Jannt86 even us parents of children with additional needs aren’t able to give a diagnosis. It was once explained to me that to get a diagnosis a child would have to fit 88 pieces of a 100 piece puzzle, it’s just so complex!

If you have the time I’d really give Ross Greene a google, he has excellent YouTube videos that are all about nurturing and goes along the ethos of ‘Kids do well if they can’. Hopefully it might help

@RollingWithMyGnomies a bit ott but thanks for the Ross Greene mention, I did not know him and I really liked some of his videos today, deffo a good way to approach things. Thanks again.

Apologies I’m not sure what part of my comment you felt was over the top but I’m glad the videos are helpful. Good luck

@RollingWithMyGnomies (OT I meant :-D ) that I was a bit off topic. Sorry. Too late, too tired.