Friendship Triangle

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Help, advice needed.
My DD age 6 has two close friends, but recently she has been arguing with the other friend, and it seems to be over the third friend.
I don't know who to believe, DD says she is the one being left out, the other friend has been telling her mum that my DD has been saying horrible things to her.
It all seems to be a power struggle over this third friend, it's a classic example of two's company, three's a crowd and it all seems to kick off in the school playground at breaktime.
I've only just found out about it, and I feel really bad because the other mum is really worried about about her DD who has been really upset about the situation for months now. My DD has not said anything to me and I'm not sure why (is it because she doesn't perceive it as a problem? Or is it because she is in control?). Suggestions for handling and resolving this situation would be most grateful.

Bumping for you. Don't have any experience with this (yet!) my DD is only 19m. don't know what else you can do except talk to your DD to try to get to the bottom of it. Like I said, I have no experience though! Good luck.

Girls and friendships are a complete nightmare and it's even worse when there are 3 of them, it inevitably ends in tears. I am probably not the best person to give advice as my DD has dyspraxia and had a few problems with the social side of things.

I think I would have a chat with her about being kind etc and try to get her to see things from her friend's point of view. But I would be a little careful in believing the other girl as I ave found that things often never turn out to be as black and white as they seem.

I'd also encourage your DD to invite some other girls round who she might not usually play with as I've found that can often diffuse things a little.

Ghastly business, girls and their best friends. I think all you can do is repeat messages about kindness and not leaving out and encourage them to make friends with other girls.