How do I stop ds storing his poo up all day??

[mumfor1standfinaltime]

Ds is 2.7 and we have been potty training for couple of months now.
He wees in the potty and sometimes the toilet very well and he picked this up really quickly with only few accidents.
He won't poo in the potty or in the toilet at all. He 'saves his poo' for bedtime and it does my head in as we waste so many nappies and I feel like I put him to bed twice every night! Wait for the 'poo poo mummy' shout down the stairs then it's change, then bed.

He will ask to go to bed, and this usually translates to 'I need a poo so going to bed to do it' and not 'Im off to bed, to sleep!'

Anyone else had this? Any suggestions welcome.

Sorry but I don't really have any advice, but just wanted to let you know that our DS does something similar with pooing.

We are also in the middle of potty training our 2.2 DS. He will not poo at nursery (he is ther 4.5days/week) but about 10 minutes after we get home, he needs to poo and does it in the toilet.

I think it may just be a confidence thing and that the more confident he becomes with potty training, the more relaxed he will be, IYKWIM?

I've tried lots of things and the two things that made a difference are the sneaky poo story and chocolate buttons. DS started off getting a chocolate button for sitting quietly on the loo for a couple of minutes, and 2 more buttons if he did a poo. Now he gets 2 buttons for pooing on the loo and an extra one if he went to the loo without being prompted to go.

Try sitting him on the loo before bed with a book and with you holding the bag of buttons so that he can see the reward.

Hi, thanks!
I guess it is a confidence thing. Ds has just started playschool and he has improved since he has been there with potty training, after 2 visits he asked to use the toilet at home (he always used potty) and he used to be scared of public toilets!

I knew tonight he wanted to do a poo before bed and put him on the potty, he just sat and cried! I felt cruel, so put nappy on! Guess I should give it more time.

Bran, thats a good idea. He gets a sticker for doing a wee on toilet, so maybe another treat (different one) would work.

had this. still having this,actually. so i can be of no help whatsoever but eagerly await responses. thought we had it sorted DS2,age3 but this week YeeUCK back again. is it a 'boy thing'??

It's physically impossible for a child to cry with a chocolate button in his mouth (at least it is for my ds ).

Sneaky Poo story on this thread, it's very popular in our house. We also do a cheerleader type chant "Sneaky Poo, in the loo. Sneaky Poo, in the loo". We are a very sophisticated household.

My nephew had same problem too! My sister said it didn't stop until he was after 3 years old and that he just went for a poo one day on the loo and they had a big dance about it! Just wanted to know if anyone else had any ideas.
Maybe it is a boy thing

Sneaky poo..wow what a story! Will try it.

Apparently, boys are supposed to be slower than girls!

The choc button reward could be a good incentive for pooing only. I would keep to stickers for weeing.

My DS also wouldn't sit on the 'big' toilet for ages, not even with one of those support seats that sits under normal seat. He would only use potty. One day, he refused to use potty and now only sits on the toilet.

He will get there eventually.

No strategies I'm afraid - we have the same problem. I didn't mind too much when the poo came at bedtime - I felt 'safe' that he wouldn't poo out and about, so he wore pants all day long. It was a pain if it got a bit later though, as he'd 'wait up' for the poo - sometimes until midnight . However, it's now getting earlier and earlier - 1pm today, so we really need to try and do something about it. DS1 is nearly 3y6m now, and this has been going on for over a year!

He loves chocolate stars (milky way) so will be using them! Infact he has a thing about stars, he has sticky stars for weeing on loo.
Can't believe the improvement since going to playschool tbh. He wet him self on first day there, but since he has asked to use the big loo. So he is getting there.

Just got to be patient I guess!

I know what you mean about it 'being safe' if he poos at bedtime! Thats one advantage.

You should hear conversations in this house 'did he have a poo yet' and 'did he have a poo this morning when he woke up' and 'oh good he didn't do a poo', it is getting silly!

At least we can feel we are not alone on this one.

Mumfor1... just to say we had this for a long while and I would say that the most important thing is that your ds is actually pooing. It doesn't take much pressure to turn the child into being afraid to poo at all, and that really is a total nightmare in comparison (doctors, lactulose etc!). So it's really really tedious but the less pressure you put on the sooner he'll do it - in his own time.

Every time I pick DS up from nursery, the first question I ask (in anticipation) is 'has he poo'd today' and the answer is always No! Loads of weeing though which is good news so washing not piling up like it did in the beginning!

Good luck

I have absolutely no idea if this is worth a try or not but it would be if it's because he's worried about the 'big drop' and/or the sound etc. Put cling film over the toilet but under the seat - not tightly!! So that will catch the poo rather than it dropping all the way down.... sorry if that sounds a bit off the wall

BTW - we have two different types of nappies - Tesco value nappies, and the normal ones. We use a value nappy for the poo, then put on a better one for overnight (not dry at night yet). It makes me feel a bit better about the waste of money on nappies! We used to use cloth nappies on him, but I got fed up of dealing with the poo (still use them on DS2). I should put a cloth nappy on him after the poo though I suppose. Having just read the 'sneaky poo' thread, we're lucky in the grand scheme of things. DS1 just says 'I need a nappy on now for a poo', goes in the toilet (we have a rule that he must only do the poo in the toilet), then comes out when he's finished to be cleaned up.

OMG Putthat, that sounds like a recipe for an 'I-had to-fish-out-invisible-pooey-clingfilm-from-my-toilet' kind of moment!

Certainly something to include in your memoirs

Thanks for the tips. I was using cheaper nappies to 'catch the poo' but there is always the odd night he would fall asleep without pooing and then I would sit there worrying he would wake in the night because of cheap nappies lol!
I did use washable nappies when he was younger but can't face them now!

Last night he needed to poo while he was having a bath before bed. Dh was bathing him, he tried to get him to sit on potty/toilet and he wasn't happy staying on there. I just said to dh 'leave his nappy off and see what happens'. He promptly pooed on the floor! I wanted him to see the poo and to explain where it had to go, if that makes sense.

Oh yes, love the cling film idea lol!

oh Im' having this too

Sneaky poo sounds scary!!

Hello All am having exactly the same problem with my dd aged 26 months, she has been dry for nearly a month but will not poo unless she has her nappy on! We have had some real tantrums over this - not just her! I don't get it - how can it be preferable to poo in a nappy?!!! No amount of persuation or bribery seems to off worked, spoke to HV today who suggested putting nappy on and then sitting her on the toilet. Got a feeling that won't work but will try!!! XxX