Concerned about 17 month old

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Hello all!
I’m new here, and I was just looking for some advice or calming down I suppose.
My daughter turned 17 months old on Wednesday (27th may) and over the course of lockdown I have noticed several things that I suppose I’d missed before as we were very busy but now we’re in the house most of the day and I just basically watch her most of the day. I then googled, which of course sends you down a rabbit hole and now I’m convinced she has asd.
The signs I’ve noticed are

• she doesn’t wave

-she doesn’t point -she only says mammma, baba, and bad however they aren’t used with any functionality. -she doesn’t communicate with us, the only communication is lifting her arms if she wants out of her high chair or cot. -she walks around just shaking her head, and throwing herself on the floor. -she loves spinning wheels, and always has to have something in her mouth and in her hand at basically all times. She’s under a paediatric consultant for other reasons, so I have made a call in the hopes that she can get back in touch with me when possible. However given everything going on I’m not holding my breath it will be soon. I suppose I just need to hear others experiences, I’m not overly worried if she was autistic I suppose my worry is you read how important early intervention is in helping them in the long run. But given the pandemic, I don’t think we’ll be able to get any kind of help anytime soon! Sorry for the long post 🤦🏻‍♀️

I totally understand what you mean my 17.5 month old daughter is pretty like yours. Doesn’t point or wave. I’ve been concerned for a while and pushed for a referral to child development. Like you I’m not holding my breath either due to this pandemic. It’s frustrating because I just want to know the best way to help her. Everything is quite scary now, my younger sibling didn’t point or talk till she was 2 and she isn’t asd or anything like that but now if your child doesn’t point by 18 months or have any words they basically tell you that’s where it’s heading. I am worried about asd but I’m more concerned about how I can support her so she can have the best life ever.

My daughter started pointing at 18 months and one week! She doesn't wave but she has also just learned to blow kisses and high five! How are your children's understanding of language? Can they follow simple instructions?

@CP2701 if I ask her where her teddy is she’ll pick it up or if I ask her where her ball is she’ll get it. If I ask her to get her sippy she’ll go get it but sometimes more than I’d like she’d completely ignore me and not do it 🤷🏾‍♀️

Ha, she's maybe got a bit of selective hearing! Have you thought about getting her hearing checked just in case? Just to rule it out if nothing else.

@CP2701we have been referred for a hearing test but I just don’t know when that’ll happen. She tends to put her fingers in her ears a bit but has never fussed or cried. She did have really terrible colds at 3 and 9 months so I just don’t know

My little boy is pretty much the same. 18 months old tomorrow and he doesn’t wave or clap, rarely points. Constantly shoving toys in his mouth still. Says a few words. Constantly playing with his ears (might get that checked when I can actually go to the GP freely!) seems to only listen to us when he chooses to. I’m worried too that he’s got something wrong with him.

My son is the same, he’s 15 months. Doesn’t point, respond to name, wave, claps but won’t copy me clapping. Doesn’t understand simple instructions like where is the ball. Eye contact isn’t good. If I show him the ducks in the pond he won’t look. I’m very concerned. Does anyone have an update on their little ones? I want to be able to help and have been reading early intervention is key