Partner angry with DS, 3

[mamma1234]

My 3 year old is going through typical behaviour for his age, pouring a few drinks on the floor and weeping in the carpet etc. We are potty training. He's a lovely lad.

My partner gets very very angry whenever he does anything like this, for example when he poured his drink over he smashed up a tower my son had made in front of him.

When DS broke a DVD player accidentally my partner smashed it up in front of him.

He shouts at DS in anger and I'm really worried that he can't control himself in front of him and sees nothing wrong with getting so angry.

Please, what can I do - I've asked him to go to anger management but he refuses.

He also gets very angry with me, telling me I am useless etc.

He also gets very angry with me, telling me I am useless etc.

Leave. Leave before he hits your baby. Please make arrangements and go. No drama, no accusations, you are protecting your son from a lifetime of abuse. Be practical about it but do not stay with this man. You and your son are in danger.

The behaviour problem here is with your DH, not with your DS.

This man is abusing your son and you are allowing it to happen. It sounds like he is abusing you too.

You need to take action to change this, now.

If a stranger walked into your house off the street and behaved this way towards your son, would you allow it? No, you would call the police. So why are you allowing this man to do it to him?

Remember, your son relies entirely on you to protect him. Promises of anger management or changed behaviour mean nothing to him - he only lives in his experiences, which at the moment are abusive.

You are not useless. He says this to destroy your self esteem so that you won’t protect your son and leave. Do not let him do this.

You are not alone and you can get support. Do you have family who could help you? You don’t mention if this man is the child’s Father?

There are also professional groups that can support you, such as

www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You absolutely need to take your child and leave, immediately. Unless you own the house, in which case kick him out and call the police for assistance if you need it.

Horrible behaviour if feel so sorry for you both especially your son.

He's a little boy he's not doing these things deliberately.

Get him out of this situation.

Leave, leave him now, he sounds unpredictable and dangerous. To get that aggressive towards a child is a warning enough, get yourself and your child away from him x

Do you have anywhere you could go stay for a little while? You could tell him that unless he sorts himself out then you and your son will not be returning.
This really will affect your son in a bad way if it continues.
Have you tried a calm conversation about it? Or does that just quickly lead to shouting

Just dip out of that relationship, yo. My dad was like that; do you really want to deal with his behaviour for the rest of your life, like my poor, long-suffering mother?