7yo daytime wetting

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Hello friends

Looking for some guidance as I've exhausted all immediate options.

DH is wetting herself multiple times a day and has been for months, in fact almost every time she goes to the toilet, she needs to be changed. She's been toilet trained since she was two, however we have had many struggles in this department over the years. I've taken her to the doctor, who does general observations and a urine test, then puts it down to constipation and prescribes laxatives.

It seems to happen in episodes, she may be fine for weeks or months but then all of a sudden she starts wetting again. When I ask her she says she can't help it. But she seems to always leave it till she's absolutely bursting before she will go. To combat this I've started forcing her to go at regular intervals.

Just a little more background, in the past she has gone through stages of pooing in her swimming costume, to the point we couldn't let her go swimming anymore. (She rarely has bowel accidents any other time) She hides her soiled underwear (out of shame I imagine which breaks my heart) which I then find days later and it's driving me crazy. She has wet the bed in the past, however this is rare and the accidents generally only happen during the day.

Any advice on this would be appreciated, I am calling my GP again tomorrow to see if DH could possibly be referred to a child psychologist or paediatrician, I need to fix this for my girl, it's having an impact on her mental health, I can tell it's getting her down as well as me.

Thanks in advance

Sorry I meant DD definitely not DH, LOL.

Apologies it's late and I'm drained

While you're waiting for a better diagnosis, what about showing her how to use sanitary pads and how to dispose of them?

Managing pads and keeping her clothes clean is something she would be able to control, therefore something you can reward based on (rewarding without pads may not work if there's a medical issue and she can't help wetting).

Any public female bathroom will have a bin for disposal and at school, there should be provision for older students who are early maturing to have access to a bin.

If it is a big gush rather than a little bit here and there and too much for a sanitary pad, there's pads specifically for incontinence as well that would hold much more.

Doesn't help with swimming but at least will get her through the day without embarrassment. Hopefully only needed until you get a proper diagnosis

Thanks Tiger, I think this may be something I'll approach with her. She was hospitalised two years ago for a brain infection for 8 weeks and came out the other end relatively unscathed. However I feel this is where her toileting issues started. Not sure if it may be related so definitely something worth a bit more investigation.

Thanks for taking the time to reply, greatly appreciated.

Have a great day!

I don't really know what to advise but I did want to say you are not alone in this. My son will be 7 in July and has been the same on/off since he toilet 'trained' just before 3

Gone through phases of good and bad currently it has been better the last few weeks. This happens every so often and then I think this is it but usually comes back. Drives me crazy. He's not dry at night either although that doesn't bother me as much just yet.