I posted loads about ds's school behaviour last year, he kept getting red cards, I used to dread collecting him cos of what they would tell me next. I used to tell them he was nowhere near as bad at home, I don't think they believed me.
We worked with school, over the summer we saw a psychologist, DS has gone back into year 3, new teacher, so far things have been MUCH better, TA comes out to tell us each day, full of praise etc etc, we tell him how pleased we are etc.
But at home we're getting horrendous fallout! He won't do ANYTHING when he's asked without a tremendous fuss, we get outright refusals, 'age 3 type' tantrums. Bedtime is taking an hour, it's just taken 45 mins to get him to practice 10 spellings for tomorrow. He's thrown cushions at me, says I won't help him (when I sit down to help, he says I put him off). Yells at me because 'it's too hard' even tho' when he actually sits down to do them, it's a breeze. I am trying to stay calm, but finding it very hard.
His computer time is supposed to be earned by doing what he's asked, when he's asked. He knows that is the rule, he fully understands the concept. But he does these tantrums, then when we say he can't use the computer we get twice as much tantrum.
currently he's been sent to his room (he went, but swore at me on the way ), I'm fighting back my tears, cos I feel I'm losing him (and losing control, TBH).